How would you respond if your kid cursed you out and threatened to report you to Child Protective Services for abuse if you did not?
2006-08-29 10:33:12 · 13 answers · asked by nvsweets2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd tell him go ahead...report me. Then, when they show up at my house and see what kind of good parent I am, they'll just go home, and take note of the fact that the kid is a liar.
And yes, if he's not putting any effort into school, I'd let him (make him?) drop out and get a job. I would also let him (make him?) find his own place to live, since he apparently thinks he's all that.
Seriously, why should he waste his time at school, if he can get his GED and move on with his life?
2006-08-29 10:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how old the kid is, but my daughter threatened the same thing once and I called her bluff and called the police myself. I explained to them what was going on (She was cursing me and threatening to hit me) and that she wanted to leave. I refused to be held hostage in my own home. Surprisingly, the officer told her that that I had a right not only to defend myself from her, but that I was also allowed to "discipline" her within reason. If I were you, I'd let my son call CPS, let them come pick him up, and wait until he calls you from foster care. Kids have way too much control over the parents in these times, and we are not preparing them properly for adulthood by capitulating to their every whim. Ask him whether he thinks it will hurt YOU if he drops out of school? I'll assume you have some education and are earning and providing a living. He'll eventually have to figure out a way to do the same. It would be a lost easier for him if he would meet you half way and you could help him, but if he's got a better plan, let him go, he'll come back. By the way, my daughter has now turned things around, not perfect, but then I don't know a family that is!
2006-08-29 10:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is a tough one honestly man kids are learning that abuse thing younger and younger now. Well I would get involved with the court system because obviously we are talking about a child not old enough to live on their own, and get a judge or caseworker involved, they will listen. Your kid will hate you during the time he/she is in school or whatever happens yes, but is it just about one of the only options YES. Look I grew up on the streets from age 14 and I luckily turned my life around and barely passed high school now iam 5 credits away from my degree in criminal justice. You have to do something even if its making a deal with your kid and breaking down saying fine drop out but your going to be homeschooled or drop out and Iam not going to support you. You do have a leg to stand on, use it. Parents are afraid to use their authority now and I dont blame them, but just make sure you do everything the right way. Those are basically your options, like it or not.
2006-08-29 10:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, if he wants to waste his life filling an empty seat (in school)until he turns 18, that is his loss.
Also, if he has no grounds to call CPS, LET HIM (you can't prevent him from doing it even if he does have grounds anyway).
If he is cutting up classes, find out where he hangs and send the ttruancy officer there (most high schools have one). I would also suggest a police ride along so the kid can get a taste of what it is like on the other side.
Good luck
2006-08-29 10:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No letting your child drop out is the worst you can do. It will seriously hurt them in the long run. Maybe a switch of schools would help?
2006-08-29 10:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by Airzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get someone higher involved such as the authorities or even Child protective Services. Im sure they see this more often then we would like to know about.
2006-08-29 10:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to "go ahead". That's what I told my kids when they threatened...they didn't though. There was nothing to substantiate it.
But...ask yourself...why doesn't he care? He's failing because he doesn't care, or he doesn't care because he's failing? Why is he failing? Doesn't he understand the subjects? Why?
It's most probably something else not related to school....and I'd make it my business to find out if I were his/her parent.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 10:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by DianeD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call child protective services myself and have the child in question put into a juvenile detention center for help. When you no longer have control ofer your childs welbeing its time to show them just how tough life can get
2006-08-29 10:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 18, kick him out of the house. Tough love. I would go to family counseling otherwise. It sounds like he has some anger issues.
2006-08-29 10:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..... i dropped out and it was the worst mistake i ever made...tell him that if he wants to drop out then he needs to grow up... get a job pay some bills make it hard for him to quit!!! tell him that he will never have anything by quitting school...his life will suck! and I realize that some people out there have a better life than me like Drew Barrymore and some other celebs that quit school but i am no actress and i wish i had stayed in school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-29 10:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by AmandaB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋