My bridesmaid and soon to be sister-in-law is having her wedding a month after mine and is using the same colors...should I (who is getting married first, was engaged first and picked my colors first) change the color I use for the bridesmaid dresses, flower girl etc? I have decided to use a light blue for thier dresses (my favorite color) and use red and silver as accents everywhere else...but she wants me to change it to red...wtf should I do!?!? AS IF I NEED MORE STRESS!!!
2006-08-29 10:29:50 · 36 answers · asked by Halley G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dont change anything... Everyone is going to think she is a LOSER for doing your entire wedding over like that.... That is obsurd and shes a lot worse than just a "bag" for doing this to you. Its your DAY.... make the most of it and do it how you want it.
2006-08-29 10:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If you got engaged first, set your date first, chose your colors first... in other words, if you didn't copy her then she has absolutely NO RIGHT to even ask you to change anything. You should just tell her that you've made your decision and that it is no longer up for discussion.
(I'm sure you already know this and wouldn't do it anyway, but if you hear her talking about some element of her wedding that you hadn't thought of - a centerpiece concept, for example - don't steal it from her. But you don't sound like the kind of person who would do that.)
As a sidenote, if she becomes a complete pain in the keister, I would think about excusing her from the wedding party. You don't need the stress and I really doubt she's going to be supportive for you since she'll be so close to her own wedding.
2006-08-29 12:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why change your colors. Your wedding is first and if you are the one who made these choices first then they are yours! Don't worry about it. It's her decision so if she wants the same colors let her. But do no change yours! Put your foot down. Tell her NO NO NO! You are the bride and shouldn't be worrying about these things so have your maid of honor or you Mom take care of it. That's what they are there for. Just let them know that this was your choice first and that should be all they need to know. Now relax! This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life. Enjoy it and turn the crap over to your people!
2006-08-29 10:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't change a thing! First, IF anyone notices that the colors are the same, no one will care. Second, IF they notice, then they'll remember that YOUR wedding was first. She'll just look like the copycat she is. Don't stress about it.
You plan your wedding the way you want. Don't change anything for her, because she wouldn't do it for you.
2006-08-29 15:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to look stupid at her wedding using the same colors as you....like you said, you were engaged first, picked out your colors etc. Don't stress over it. Do what you want, its your wedding. If she continues to act like a 'bag' kick her out of your wedding party!
2006-08-29 10:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your colors the way you want them.. You hopefully only get married once..I should be what makes you happy...
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2006-08-29 10:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by TriviaFunster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The nice thing is you are the first. when everyone goes to her wedding they will be shocked to see she used the same colors. You are the first to make the statement. if I were you I would use the colors everywhere so all the relatives can see it and make her look bad.
2006-08-29 10:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by madamoiselle_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, don't change a thing. You planned your wedding first, so everything you picked out should stay. She should be the one to change colors since she planned her wedding after yours. Just tell her that you are keeping everything the way it is and leave it at that.
2006-08-29 10:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't change your colors because your SIL is being such a bag. She shouldn't have used the colors you picked in the first place. She is trying to start a power play in your family, don't let her get away with it.
2006-08-29 15:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares.. It is a month away and you probably will not have many at the same guests at wither wedding. Grow up and get over the color thing...... and have fun at both weddings. It is suppose to be fun not a contest.
2006-08-29 10:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by bucks110 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Although I don't like your choice of colors it is YOUR wedding and you should be able to chose what you want. If she wants the same for her wedding then at least your is first! She will look the fool not you!
2006-08-29 10:33:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋