okay so i asked out a guy about a year ago. he said no because we'd never talked. it was really stupid of me. after that he avoided me. i think we were both too young anyways.... but now... its different. he starts talking to me about really random things, after a year of avoiding me. hes DOES talk to people a lot.
but when im near him, he talks louder and reveals information like his classes and lunch period. also, after our classes i was at my locker and he at his (its near mine) and this guy was helping me and a friend and i was being all nice to the guy helping and stuff and im like "thank you!!" and my friends like "Thanks." and then hes (the guy the whole question is about) like "thank you" and he wasn't even in the conversation.
he does weird things like that a lot around me. he looks at me and when i catch him he looks away quickly and acts annoyed, except i can tell he isn't.
whats going through his mind? what should i do? BTW, im not asking him out again!
2006-08-29 10:27:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a cute story. It seems like he's DEFINITELY into you. Well, there is a small chance that he might just be playing around because he loves attention, but it seems like he likes you. You shouldn't take in consideration the fact that he said 'no' to you back then, because people change. And who knows?! Maybe he liked you back then, too, but he was ashamed/scared of admitting it. Maybe he liked you back then, but he didn't realize it. Or maybe he just started developing these feelings for you.
Anyway, seeing as he doesn't seem to be able to approach you and you say that you won't approach him either, I think you should at least let him know that you're interested in him and observe his reactions. You don't have to do much, so don't worry. You just need to be subtle, certain gestures can send blatant messages. Smile at him casually as you pass by him. Not necessarily in a romantic or sensual way, just a friendly, warm smile that will defenitely intrigue him. Also, if you make eye contact with him, keep looking at him for a few moments. Not too long, just enough for him to understand.
Or, if you want to be more subtle, when you're at school, as you walk by him, try bumping into him intentionally and drop your books or whatever you're holding at that moment. Before beding to pick up your things, look at him in a surprised way. Try to look surprised and a bit apologetic as if that's the first time you actually see him, and then casually say 'sorry' and smile. That will show him that you're at least open to him and will increase his confidence.
2006-08-29 10:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy might like to go out with you but I think he is very insecure. He's kind of weird because he feels uncomfortable being serious. He is afraid of rejection. Try to make him feel more comfortable around you. Talk a little weird back to him and try to get to know him personally.Try to get him to loosen up and talk about himself. Maybe some girl has hurt him and he is being cautious about trusting someone else. Find out what is underneath the weirdness and you might find a wonderful friend or maybe even more...Let me know how things turn out.I used to be insecure myself a long time ago and I covered it up by joking and never being serious and I missed out on having boyfriends and close friends of the opposite sex.
2006-08-29 17:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear grl i have never met,
when u catch this guy lookin at u hes checkin u out. now the real wuestion is where is all of his attention going. i think u should just wait it out if he doesnt make a move (a bigger move, like talkin 2 u 1 on 1) talk 2 him and tell him how u feel about him. when he gets into conversations he is seeing if u like him. hes waiting for u 2 respond. just dont respond real fast. and dont wait 2 long i think a week should do it. --- from grl u have never met
2006-08-29 18:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not asking him out again, then I don't understand your problem.
In reality you probably do want to ask him again since you are so obsessed by it, but you are afraid of rejection. It's a normal reaction. I can only give this advice. I regret some of what I've done in my life, but my greatest regrets are those where I didn't try or just gave up.
Ask him our or not, it doesn't matter. Just move on with your life.
2006-08-29 17:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by mb3698 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not asking him out again, then what is the point of your question? Remember, he is a guy, they send weird signals. I think that if he avoided you for an entire year, he is a jerk anyways. You can do better...
2006-08-29 17:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang out with him with a bunch of friends. See what happens he could very much like you and not know how to tell you. If your in a group setting sometimes it takes away pressure
2006-08-29 17:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by madamoiselle_2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's got a crush on you. It's pretty obvious, likely he still thinks you have a thing for him.
2006-08-29 17:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by CRtwenty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key, dion't ask other's what to do about him. Talk to him and get it out the way otherwise you just waste time.
2006-08-29 17:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Speakthe truth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He really likes you...when a guy is staring at you and looks away he adores you....but I'm not really sure.
2006-08-29 17:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a failed attempt to impress u, hes gotta crush on u would be my guess, he probebly just gets nervous around u
2006-08-29 17:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋