my girlfriend always acts like there's something wrong and won't tell me what it is?

Question

its like prying teeth to get her to tell me whats wrong and its usually something little-but she is only better until I A. badger her until she tells me what it is B. we talk about it C. i appologize for whatever thing that i did that i did not know i did.

I love her but "jamacian me crazy"

What can i do to make her stop the madness?

Why do people do this? i know she is not the only one

does anybody have some kind of therpy trick i could use to make this stop-i love her so no dumping her is not the answer.

Answer 1

All girls are a little different. You have your "You pissed me off, and I'm going to let you know right away what you did" type, then you have your "You upset me, but you have to GUESS what you did wrong, because I'm mad and I'm not telling you".

But mostly, I think girls get upset, but don't necessarily want to upset anyone else. I'm this way, too. Usually, I just need some time to think about why I'm angry before I'm ready to talk about it. You could try talking to your girlfriend (when she's not angry) about how she likes to deal with her problems. Ask her if she likes to avoid things, or if she likes it when you badger her (because personally, I hate that--it's guaranteed to take me from grumpy to flat out rampage).

Find out how she likes to deal--and then stick to that. If she says she likes to take time, then tell her you'll give her 30-60 minutes, and then you get to talk. If she likes to keep it bottled up, tell her she has to write it down so you can deal with it later.

She's got her ways, and I doubt you can change that. But let her know that you want to communicate with her, anyway possible.

Answer 2

Good for you about not dumping her. You didn't say how old the two of you are. She could be going through some hormonal changes and not sure how to react.
If you feel there is a problem and she is under 18 talk with her parents about her actions they may have noticed some things as well.
Hormones are very powerful and she may not even know what is wrong.

Answer 3

It's the oldest female trick in the book!
First, stop apologising, if she won't tell you what's wrong, tough.
Second, when you see that she's upset and you ask her a couple of times why she's upset and she refuses to say, just ignore her, act like every thing's okay, carry on doing whatever you're doing. Even if she doesn't wanna get down, just say goodnight and act like you're fine with it. She'll come around, I promise. It's all a game to these women, to keep you on your toes, and you must do the same. Treat her well, just don't give in to her silly games. You need will power cos it will go against your instincts, men aren't complicated. You must not, I repeat, must not, give in, it's not your fault. If you've done something wrong, by all means apologise, but if she's just acting for attention or something and won't say what's wrong, just ignore her.
I wish you and your lady the best!!

Answer 4

Congratulations, and welcome to the Wonderful World of Wacky Women. Women do this for the most part to get someone to keep badgering them until they feel ready to talk. If you don't, when they do tell you, you've got an attachment. "You don't even care enuff to find out what's bothering me."
u: "But I asked you and you didn't say anything."
her: "So. You know somethong was bothering me."
note: this usually happens when you're about to do something u want to do(watch the game, go out)
I think it's a way to gauge your concern and how far you're willing to go to get her to talk.
It's a little trick they do to demonstrate a "lack of communication".
She's spoiled. Suck it up!!!

Answer 5

It's just a game she is playing with you. When she plays the game you pay attention to her. If you want her to stop just ignore the game and talk about anything but what she is trying to get you to ask her. It will drive her crazy and she will eventually tell you. After a couple of times playing the game where you are in control she will find a new way to get 100% of your attention.

It's Bizzar but it's a problem that needs professional attention.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Men have to realize, women can be sensitive and you can say the wrong thing and not notice it. Especially women who didn't grow up with older brothers. She might be insecure and need a little extra encouragement from time to time. One "You are so beautiful." or "I'm so glad I met you." can turn her thoughts around in a second. Just make sure not to say the wrong thing. Like this for example.

Laurie got offended that I used the word "puke." But to me, that's what her dinner tasted like.

Answer 7

i think she's probably afraid of rejection. she's not good at communicating how she feels most likely because she feels like she'll be causing unnecessary drama. instead she just lets things go instead of talking about them. which ultimately causes resentment on her part. to try to get her to open up, try telling her that you love her, which means that yes you guys might fight, but that doesn't mean that you are going to leave her.

Answer 8

u know what, sometimes everyone just get stubborn! i used to be that way too.. i would just keep it in, i never really had a reason for it either i just did it. Just give it time and time to grow up and everything will be ok :) good luck

Answer 9

Maybe she's done something that she wasn't supposed to. And she's feeling guilty for her actions. Confront her and tell her that you're worried that she's behaving that way.

Answer 10

hmm seems to me like she just wants the attention, i do it when my boyfriend ignores me. I act really mad and make up a stupid excuse but it always gets his attention