Well, my ex-boyfriend left me a voice-mail on my phone the other day, and he told me that he really needed to talk to me. So i called him back and asked him what he wanted, he told me he still had feelings 4 me. somebody give me advice about whether i should take him back and try to make our relationship work, WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO???????????
2006-08-29 10:12:53 · 40 answers · asked by kiki0204 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, listen what he has to say. what about you? do you still have feeling for him? if you don't and ready to move on. then just tell him "thanks, but no thanks"
2006-08-29 10:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like water, they take the course of least resistance. You know , any port in a storm.
Try to remember why you broke up in the first place. This could be his loins talking. Once a man has made a conquest, they always feel that they can hit it any time they want. This just may be hit and run.
Watch your self, use caution. If you want to go out , take it slow and tell him no sex. If he stays , maybe you've got something . My thought is he'll hit the road.
Be first choice in someones life , not back up.
Good luck
2006-08-29 10:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends what the reason you guys broke up was. If it was something that you think you could move past and won't be a big problem in the future is then, if you still like him take a chance and give it another shot. If you broke up for a big reason, like cheating, you will have to decide if that is something you are willing to forgive, and try to move past it. Listen to your heart and the answer will become clear.
Im afraid nobody can answer this question but you.
Goodluck
2006-08-29 10:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you are at least considering the notion of getting back together with him. Whether you should get back together with him or not, depends on the factors that caused you two to break it off. If he was a decent person to you and you genuinely feel that he is right for you, then yes, go back. Obviously, if he treated you like crap then in all likelihood he will revert back to that behavior once he has you again. In lesser words, if he was good to you then go back, if not, stay away from him. Simple as that.
2006-08-29 10:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends...how did your relationship end? What went wrong?
Was it a healthy relationship?
How long have y'all been split up?
Do you want to be with him because you still have feelings or are you considering getting back together because you are scared of being alone?...sorry for the run-on.
Are you over him and would rather try something new or would you prefer to hit "rewind" and do it all over again and see if it turns out different.
I would sleep on it before making any rash decisions.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 10:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a date, don't agree to get back with him- just date. Avoid sex cause that messes up the prosess. If you two can date for a couple months and feel you can make it work then get back with him. Just keep in mind some men have other things on their mind. We'll call it a honey i miss you, haven't gotten laid in a while kinda call. If he wants you for you the just dating thing will work for him and you.(so you can decide if you want him) Just remember as soon as you give in on the sex, you no longer have a chance to see if its about you anymore.
2006-08-29 10:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't of even returned his call. I don't know who decided to end the relationship. But chances are if it was him, he probably thought he met someone better and it didn't work out. Now he wants to come back and use you until the next one comes along.
Keep your dignity and self respect and don't speak to him again. I would much rather be the one that got away, than the one he crapped all over.
2006-08-29 10:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep moving forward...going back will be even more hurtful...you can never go back...it will be short term anyway....ask your mom what the term "It is like labor pains mean".....having a child hurts like the devil and many women promise at the time never to get pregnant again, but most do because after a while the sense of pain from labor dissipates and women forget how much it hurt...and so...do it all over again...relationships work similarly...you go back and do it again...it will hurt even more when it terminates but you man friend will find it easier to split the second time....go forward...and nicely tell this guy to take a hike!
2006-08-29 10:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really had feelings for him and you loved your relationship before, then i say take him back. if you weren't the happiest before, then just tell him that it would be better if you weren't in a relationship right now. it really depends on whether or not he broke it off because maybe he just did it out of confusion. if you broke up with him, think about why you did and whether or not they were really good enough reasons to break up with him. good luck!! =)
2006-08-29 10:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by emilyy40193x3babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I could give you is. If you still have feelings for him you really need to work thing out with him. That means to work on little things. You must forgive each other and work on the good things in your relationship. That dosen't mean sex. get to know each other.....
2006-08-29 10:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by justmeap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about why u broke up w/ him in the first place?? there obviously had to be some waht of a reason and taht is why that u did that!! So aybe u should think about that and everything will be ok in the end :) good luck just make the right choice
2006-08-29 10:16:50 · answer #11 · answered by ME :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋