2006-08-29 10:11:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them, thanks for caring but I am an Adult and can make my own choices.
2006-08-29 10:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be able 2 live your life how u want to since your kids r now grown. Tell them that they are not the parent but u r, and if they don't like it, then they don't have to deal with it. Good luck
2006-08-29 17:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by fungurllallthatime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are always able 2 tell when something isnt right.Talk 2 them first,and if they are really serious, dump him.But if the boyfriend does something about it,and tries 2 make evreything right,he is good.. However,make sure ur kids r ok,cause he might secretly be abusing them,so really get all the facts srtaight.U never know!Good Luck!
2006-08-29 17:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with him? If yes that is all that matters. They are grown do you tell them who to date or marry if not expect the same courtesy from them.
Now if you are being abused or used in any way ( sexually, financially, etc) dump him.
Life is to short to lose the happiness you have if you feel you can do better let him go and find out what else is out there.
Be happy in and of yourself, loneliness is a state of mind not in being alone.
2006-08-29 17:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by bonita_cooper2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this ... my mother divorced my father after 27 years, and they definitely needed a divorce. But after that, she started dating a man who was 54, never married, and never had kids. He told her "Your kids are grown. Leave them alone, they don't need you ... bla blah blah" In other words, he really encouraged her to distance herself from me and my 2 siblings. Of course, we didn't like this, and we told her, but she chose him. My mom and I were very close until this happened. I'm 28 now. But our relationship has never been and probably never will be the same. Do you think your kids have some reason not to like the guy--may reasons you are blind to because of your feelings? That's how the problems started with my situation, but like I said, she ultimately chose him. He had the idea that when kids turn 18, they should basically not have much contact with their parents, especially in terms of emotional/financial support. He really changed who she was and is. It SUCKS for us and for my mom's grandchildren. She almost never sees any of us. So maybe ask yourself if their reasons might be legitimate, and talk to him about it. Maybe he can redeem himself in their eyes, but my mom's man had no desire to have a relationship with us. : (
2006-08-29 18:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the kids the boyfriend comes first
2006-09-02 05:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Grown kids to accept it or butttttttt out.
2006-08-29 17:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the boyfriend. The kids were there first and they come first.
2006-08-29 17:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think is right for you!
You raised your children, they live their lives, now you get to live your life again
My 17y is not agreeing what her mother is doing in regards with her boyfriend and believes that we should have no sexual intercourse before the wedding!
2006-08-29 17:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the issue they have with him. If they don't like him because he's younger than you, for example, tell them to mind their own business. If they think he mistreats you, etc, then maybe yall should discuss it.
2006-08-29 17:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by the_divine_ms_erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to shut up and try and be happy for you. they got to understand mama got a life too. don't be feeling guility for relationship, (unless you're involving them) do the damn thang!
2006-08-29 17:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋