I was with my boyfriend a year and he left me due to my "problems". to him the way I raised my kids was the problem. I know this is the best thing but how do I calm the nerverousness in my gut. I feel sick all the time, cant eat, my back hurts and I sleep when I can. I am on Paxil but just started it. I dont want to do this to myself but cant stop thinking of him. Any advice??
2006-08-29 10:06:54 · 19 answers · asked by lovelife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going through the same thing. Girlfriend just broke up with me. I can't eat or sleep and sometimes feel like I can't even breathe. My chest hurts and my stomach hurts. Feels like the pain will never go away.
2006-08-29 10:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a rough 2 weeks until the paxil kicks in but it will help calm the nerves, as long as you can get through the the beginning side effects i have been on that stuff for 7 months now at 20mg a pill it wont take your min off of things but it will help with anxiety and depression. You need to try to go on with your life the harder you fight the negative feelings the sooner it will be over and happier you will be.. Good Luck
2006-08-29 17:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jimbo23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you seem to have is Generalized Anxienty Disorder or something quite close to it. I suffer from the same condition and constantly mull over the past even when it showld matter much now. I do it until my throat gets lumps, my stomach turns, and I can't eat or sleep. I go through the day and then realize I feel better, then it starts all over again when I think about it.
I didn't start getting this way until recently and I'm reading books on how to combat it all. Do a search on yahoo for it for tips on how to help cope.
Hope this helps :)
2006-08-29 17:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by steven m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know it hurts, been there done that. But as you say it is for the best and right now your kids come first.
Life has a way of working out you will meet the right one and life will be good.
Don't expect someone else to make you happy find happiness in your life now, your children, your friends and so forth.
This is a good time for you to do somethings for yourself like long hot candle lit baths, a walk to alleviate stress, picnics with your kids, family outings.
Believe me they grow up so fast that they need to have good memories too.
2006-08-29 17:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by bonita_cooper2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u still blame yourself because he left you? Your way of raising your kids is your own way. It might not be the best, but if he truly cares for you he will understand your way. Maybe if you will stop punishing yourself and try moving on..it will do u a lot of good ....try and see other people...u know the saying..don't cry over spilled milk....... well... compare ur situation to that. I'm a firm believer that if someone walks out on me , it's their loss not mine. Have that self confidence and see how u will enjoy it.
2006-08-29 17:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you are going through depression. and the the pain is the physical symptoms. i have also been on anit-deppresants and so have some of my family members. the reason i chose to take anti-depressants was because i have felt depression and anxiety symptoms off and on for several years. i i couldnt think clearly when those times. i knew this was something to help the symptoms, not mask them. you need to heal from this relationship. people will tell you not to think of him, or to not cry about it, but thats not healthy. i know that medicine takes a couple weeks to work, and its not going to take away your emotions, you r still going to feel sad. the only way to heal from a heartbreak is to cry, or do whatever you do to vent. get it all out of your system. it hurts, but thats the only way to get over it. confront the pain, it is going to make you stronger and realized with your whole heart this is for the best. good luck
2006-08-29 17:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by lizmachain7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the things that made you angry when you were with him. Think of how you are still allowing him to have power over you.
Now you are on medication, miserable emotionally and physically, and my guess is he's out enjoying himself.
Realize if you do not take care of yourself you will allow him to find out tht you still have "problems" and give him even more reason to believe breaking up with you was the best thing he could have done.
2006-08-29 17:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will just take time for you to get over the pain of rejection and not knowing how to do anything by yourself. for the last year you were probably doing everything as a couple and now you are alone, the best thing to do is to try to learn to love yourself literally, by this i mean look at yourself in the mirror and try to point out your best qualities and tell yourself how much other people would desire these traits. hang in there it will get better
2006-08-29 17:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by DECATSDEAD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be looking forward to starting a fresh relationship with someone new. Not allowing yourself to wallow in misery about a man who had issues with your children. What kind of example are you setting for them?
It sounds like he was a jerk anyway. Don't you feel that you and your children deserve better?
2006-08-29 17:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if he can't handle the way you take care of you kids, he's not even worth it! Don't worry, things will get better soon. Take time to be with your friends, play with your kids, do ANYTHING to take you mind of of him. And about the pains, see a doctor. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 17:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by AB &♥; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋