He is only 4 and does not like school, he only goes for 3 hours. He talks when I am talking disrespects me and my husband. Does not listen to anything we tell him. Eats running around the house. He only does it with us because when being babysat he does fine! What r we doing wrong? Is there a book we can read or maybe some counseling my husband and I can go to, so we understand him better?
2006-08-29 10:06:00 · 12 answers · asked by Bero 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My suggestion to you is, Watch the Supernanny show from ABC. Seriously. You can read a lot of books for theory but seeing things happen in action is a totally different experience. I feel like I learn a lot from the show.
2006-08-29 10:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by emigirl77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 girls, 2, 7 and 9. My 7 year old has really been my challenging one. Things that I forget as a parent when I am in your situation. They are acting out for some reason, maybe there has been a recent change in the household. Is mom and dad getting along? Has there been enough sitting down and playing with your son. Maybe one on one daddy time, or mommy time. I know that kids don't just turn into bad behaviors. Is school starting soon for him, sometimes upcoming change can be very unsettling. Give lots of love through this time, though I know it can be hard, but be careful how you look at him, you must give him all the support and attention and patience during this time. I promise you, YOU change you and how you respond to him and he will change too! Hang in there this too will pass!
2006-08-29 10:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only assistance you need can be found in the palm of your hand. Your child needs to be taught discipline, he will not learn it by accident.
You need to get to grips with him (in theory and practice). Don't let him eat unless he is sat at the table. That is a no-brainer.
Make him listen, hold him (gently but firmly) by the shoulders and repeat what you are saying until he listens and can repeat it back word for word.
He doesn't do it with the babysitter, because he knows that with you he can win.
You are the parents. You do not need books (unless to hit him with) or counseling. God made you bigger for a reason.
2006-08-29 10:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him talk to you like that shame on you. You tell him while looking him in the eye 'You DO NOT Talk to daddy that way.Now,please go apologies.' If this continues,I would really suggest just ignoring it.Now, for the not listening I would test his hearing.Set him in a far place (Like away from the kitchen) and call his name and tell him that you have something for him.Use a loud,but normal tone.If he comes well,we know he does not have hearing problems.(Most children who yell,scream,and don't listen us ally cannot hear themselves,hence the yelling)If he DOES NOT respond, get his hearing checked immediately.
Now,with the 'Babysitting hes fine thing' your little boy now knows what he can get away with.He will only act up around you because you might give him what he wants.(Are you soft on him?,Give him what he wants?,Is he an only child and KNOWS,that he is)
He knows mommy and daddy will give me anything if I act up,just to get me to stop crying!
If I run around with my food mommy will take it away from me and give me attention!
I know when mommy and daddy go away there are rules,but as soon as they come back,I WILL get what I want!
Some thoughts to ponder.Good luck!
2006-08-29 10:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to question your parenting methods , but since you asked the question, this is what I believe. Children are constantly trying to figure things out, they like to test boundaries. I am assuming that when your son behaves with the babysitter it is because the babysitter has made it obvious what his or her rules are and what he/she is willing to put up with.Disipline is always good.I am not talking about abuse, but setting bedtimes,diner times etc is a way to start. You have you to let your son know that you are the parent and it is you that needs to be respected. It is your home and you rule it, not him.
2006-08-29 10:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by chachaboricua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DISCIPLINE
You are the parent. Put your foot down and act like the grown up. When he does something wrong - punish him. Time out, spanking, take toys or privileges away, whatever works.
If you don't get a handle on him now it's going to be worse for you when he gets older.
2006-08-29 11:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by tdh05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mY 5 YEAR OLD USED TO BE THE SAME WAY AND THEN MY BROTHER INLAW MOVED IN AND STRAIGHTENED ME AND HER RIGHT OUT. YOU JUST HAVE TO STAY FIRM AND NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP. I KNOW THAT KIDS CAN LAST LONGER THAN YOU FOR AWHILE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT. TIME OUTS WORK GOOD TOO. AT FIRST YOU PROBABLY WILL TO KEEP PUTTING THEM BACK AND STAY THERE READY TO DO SO FOR AWHILE, THEN EACH TIME YOU WONT HAVE TO AS LONG, AND EVENTUALLY LIKE MY KIDS NOW ONLY LIKE 2 WEEKS LATER GO WILLINGLY, AND SIT THERE FOR THEIR 5 AND 3 MINS. I AM GRATEFUL THAT I HAD SOMEONE COME ALONG AND SHOW ME THE ROPES. :)))))))
2006-09-02 09:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Supernanny~! Really you need to take control and disipline your child. He wants it. he needs it. Saying no to your child will not make him a bad person. Letting him treat you like that will. I am not joking about Supernanny. She is really good and she gets results without spanking. Watch her show or check out her site.
2006-08-29 16:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by mktk401 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are great tips on discipline and advice from this site below.
2006-08-29 10:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids alwyas tend to listen to others and not the mom or dad, i can relate to this, for i have pre-school boys
2006-08-30 03:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋