My mother in law is always fussing with me and my husband about something and she is mad at me for I do not no... She said it is because I dont let my husband call her.. he doesnt call her because he doesnt wont to fight with her anymore...She left a message on my phone saying she hated me and she just could not stand me... she also said i only have one grand-daughter and we have three kids.. the other two r from previous but my husband has raised one of them from birth almost...I am really mad about that because they all love her and she is treating kids this way. I have always tried to be good to her and it is never enough!!! Im tired of her **** what would you do
2006-08-29 10:05:30 · 7 answers · asked by klfhdf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what your husband is doing, ignore her.
2006-08-29 10:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people you can't change. I have learned that from my own mother. She has what some may say a narcissistic personality and it is all about her. She favors my siblings that have so much drama in their lives and she loves chaos.
I have done everything she hates. I am making a life for myself and my family. Your hubby seems to understand the kind of person she is, and what you are experiencing isn't just the usually mother in law stuff...
Stay away maybe she will come around...
Good luck.
2006-08-29 17:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has to be the one to resolve this one. He has to go and speak to her and explain clearly and truthfully that it's his choice not to call her and why he chooses not to.
It's so unfair for her to blame you but it's easier for her to do that than to accept that her behaviour is responsible for her son not talking to her.
Reading your message, it's clear to say you're good at communicating so something you could do, when you're calm about this, is to write down all the things you value about your mother in law and then the things that the two of you need to work on. Try to make it as neutral and unhurtful as you can (it'll probably be hard) and give it to her. Remind her how much her grandchildren all love her and try to remind yourself that means there are good things about her.
Since she refuses to be the adult in this situation, it's up to you but first it's up to your husband to set her straight.
Good luck!! My relationship (and my kids relationship) with my mom-in-law is a very precious one but it took a lot of work. I'm just lucky that mine was willing to come halfway even when I was too immature to do so. It took a few years for me to appreciate what a treasure she was and now that my own mom is gone, I'm just blessed to still have a mom.
2006-08-29 17:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to honest you lose either way you choose, choose who makes you the happiest, because the other will in time understand what they have done
2006-08-29 17:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by northwoodsmuddchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore the queen.. inlaws are like that.
they're prone to inflicting pain.
2006-08-29 17:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront her. if she doesnt understand, you need to ignore her until she comes to her senses.
2006-08-29 17:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by emmasahottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away do not interact with her.
2006-08-29 17:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋