he lives a few hours away, we went out for 4 months 2yrs ago, i ended it cos of the distance and not seeing him enough, always kept in contact, started to see him again, came up for my bday, took me out met my friends... had an amazing time... tells me he really likes me alot.. goes home then hardly texts me, replys to mine now and again, doesnt return my calls, said we would chat on line about this weekend.. ment to be going down there to see him... and he hasnt come on line and hasnt replied to my text....
im so mixed up as i thought he really liked me alot and was hopeful for the future...but how can he be like this if he really did?
2006-08-29 10:04:58 · 30 answers · asked by meow22 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says he not seeing anyone else, would be difficult if he was trying to hide a gf if i went to his and he was dont you think....
plus i do believe he wouldnt see anyone else....
I just dont understand why he would want to start things up again after 2yrs and then act like this...
2006-08-29 10:11:45 · update #1
hes not married, im 24 hes 28, been to his loads! when we first went out with each other.....
hes very busy with work and i understand that, he said he wanted to introduce me to his friends at the weekend when i came down this weekend, he is always so affectionate and caring when together,...
2006-08-29 10:20:10 · update #2
but why do men have to play games.....?
if he just wants sex then im sure theres enough women in london for him... why bother coming to my city etc....
no wonder some women are so messed up when they get treated like this!!!
2006-08-29 10:32:25 · update #3
Try not to jump to conclusions, you have no idea why he hasn't been in touch .
If you like him, maybe you ought to continue your friendship with him however you could decide to proceed with care until you're a little bit more aware of how he ticks.
Sounds like you like him but could you stand his lack of communication, if you were to form a deeper relationship?
Also he (being a guy...and by the sound of it very focused on career) might not know how his non -responsiveness is driving you nuts. He may not be insensitive, just unaware of your needs. You could always take the mickey out of him for his non communication next time you see him and see how he reacts. If his communcation starts to improve things may work out for you.
Sometimes easier to give up and try someone new, it might take willpower & strength to find out what's really going on. Good luck whchever way you choose.
Hope this helps
2006-08-29 13:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys play games like this. If I were you I wouldn't contact him anymore (no phone, text, email). If he wants to talk to you he will call and then you all can talk. And I would leave it at that. Just play it cool..talk to him when he calls (be nice) but let him make all the moves. Meanwhile date someone else, dont wait on him. And see what happens from there. Maybe he'll come around, maybe he won't. But you wont have wasted your time or made yourself look silly or desperate by feeding into his games.
2006-08-29 10:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Confuscious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you see the Oprah show where one of the writers from the show sex and the city talked about his new book called " I'm just not that into you." Basically the book was about guys who keep a girl hanging, show her one minute he care's for her and the other minute ignoring her. I suggest you read the book it's pretty interesting. As for this guy you like, just leave him alone he's playing you. I hate to tell you this but he probably has a girl friend.
2006-08-29 10:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by tell all your friends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my luv i don't know the answer but i have experienced exactly your confusion and pain over the behaviour of a man. I came to the conclusion that he did like me a lot and didn't want to hurt me by saying "look its never going to work out forget it". Men have difficulty expressing their feelings and hide their real thoughts and emotions behind a wall of words most of which are meaningless. Also they will tell you anything when they get excited and forget it minutes later. Respect yourself and plan something else, he will get keener if he thinks you have a life and are not that bothered x
2006-08-29 11:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by annn399 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so desparate. stop calling and texting and wait for him to come to u. He knows he can have you at any time thats why hes not bothered. If you really want him play hard to get, people always want what they can't have and if he thinks he can't have you then he'll want you. Personally I think you are wasting your time he is playing games with you. If he was as serious about you as u r about him he would call u everyday no matter what.
2006-08-29 10:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he really loves you but he also loves his time by himself. Let him breathe a bit. If you are the helpless clingy type, he might not be the guy for yah. Eventually, you'll drive him mad and make him feel like a prisoner to your constant needs.
There are guys who like their girls to be needy. They insecure guys who need a lot of attention too.
I think you have a good catch with this guy. Let him initiate contact from time to time. Don't push and who knows, he may come into contact with you more often because he'll be impressed by your own independence.
2006-08-29 10:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a talk with him about it and probably dump him. Most guys aren't real good with long distant relationships and he sounds like he is just blowing you off which is rude. Unless you guys can live near each other I would not even deal with the stress of it. Remeber actions speak louder than words.
2006-08-29 10:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not invest my heart too deeply in someone who lives a few hours away and who I only 'dated' for 4 months 2 years ago. Move on, find someone closer to you because obviously that is of importance in maintaining or furthering a relationship. His actions basically mean that he is ignoring you....Think: If someone truly liked you then wouldn't they do their best in communicating with you?....
2006-08-29 10:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he often has no credit? Try a surprise visit, if you are face to face it will be more than a little difficult to ignore you plus if he does have another girlfriend then he won't have time to hide her so at least you will know.
2006-08-29 10:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by hippolyta_teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly he likes you when there is no else he is interested in. He will come crawling back when he wants something from you. I've been a part of something like that and it sucks. Start your healing process now before you get hurt more.
2006-08-29 10:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by madamoiselle_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋