This question is mostly for guys but girls are also welcomed to answer it!! Here goes....My question is, is it possible for a girl to change a guy? A guy that likes to spend a lot, that likes to be all the time outside partying, I mean he works monday through friday, but he says he prefers to be outside rather than in his house.....and he doesn't really like to spend much time with his parents or family....what do you guys think about this? Is this guy worth it or not?
I know that this isn't actually part of my question but GIRLS what would you do if a guy once tells you that he left a girl pregnant and then tells you that she had an abortion....And after that when he saw that I didn't answer his calls like before, he told me it was a joke when I mentioned it....He's like you believed it? I was joking....but I mean no one jokes with those kind of things, right?? Do you think this guy is even worth it, maybe as a friend???? Please help!!!!
2006-08-29 09:58:53 · 17 answers · asked by hey_amt95 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOTE::: I'm the one that started to talk to him, and he knew that I liked him cause I told him.....Someone help??? Should I just keep him as a friend? I actually haven't heard from him in days now, so should I just forget about him and move on?? His b-day was August 6th, but I didn't contact him, I was going to send him a text message to wish him a belated b-day is that a bad idea???
2006-08-29 10:00:42 · update #1
it possible
2006-08-29 10:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by tazz001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is very clear. This is not a guy worth to get along with. Worst if you ever think to settle down and set a family with. Don't think about changing him, he is totally not mature enough. Normally this type of guys will only improve himself when he has gone through all his encounters or maybe he won't change at all. The fact that he used to stay out shows that he won't be a good future father or a good leader of the house.
His words are not trustworthy at all. When you talk to him and he does not give you a sense of security in his speech, then he should be telling lies. He is a smart guy that knows how to play around with his words. Usually this type of guy does not only has one girlfriend at a time cos he can talk well and able to win many girls' heart.
Think twice. Find another guy before he makes you pregnant and then dump you aside. I am sure there are plenty of guys easily better than him. It is not worth to gamble your youth.
2006-08-29 17:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you found a boy and not a man. What does he give you that you can't live without? Sounds like nothing. We have all been there and let me tell you, you will meet a guy who will bring you flowers, sit in pure quiet and talk to you (like you do with your girlfriends) A guy who will invite you to attend and do things with the guys, When you find this guy you will never ask a question like this again.
2006-08-29 17:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find another guy and start over. This one is way too complicated. With friends like him what would you need PMS for?
2006-08-29 17:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can't change people. This guy has to WANT to change, he has to be ready to start a new chapter in his life. If you disagree with him, then maybe he isn't the one for you!
2006-08-29 17:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's possible to change a guy, but DON'T... FREKIN'... DO IT!!!!!!!! if you don't like the guy the way he is, don't go around trying to change him! just because you don't like the way he is dosn't mean you should try to flip his personality inside-out! if you don't like him, then don't go out with him! simple as that! we like the way we are, and we would appricate it if you didn't try to bury the real us in the lies and falsehood that is the very thing you're trying to avoid! if you tell a guy you don't want him lieing to you, and then try to change him, THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE FORCING HIM TO DO!!! LIE!!! it's not the real him he's showing if you tryed to change him! bottom line, don't do it.
2006-08-29 17:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jay Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are women always trying to change guys? If you didn't like the way he was before, then don't date him or accept who he is.
2006-08-29 17:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Flem-Flam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy jokes about that then he is not worth it no matter what he tells you. f I was a girl I wouild dump his @ss and find some one that is worht it more then he was.
2006-08-29 17:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by yoda_0072002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing a car, not a person.
When you see him as an individual (& he does the same for you), you will know your true feelings for him.
2006-08-29 17:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you change people? no..
can people change... if they want to
this guy sounds not only scuzzy for leaving a girl when she was carrying his baby, but hes a liar too...
i would suggest looking for someone new...
2006-08-29 17:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change a real man. A real man must change on his own.
2006-08-29 17:02:31 · answer #11 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋