everywhere I go, the nicer I am to someone the ruder thay are to me and the more they take advantage
2006-08-29 09:56:35 · 14 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wish you had mentioned where you live so I can be sure to never visit that part of the country or world. I have never come across that phenomenon. Usually,I have found that people respond to a smile or a friendly word or gesture in kind. Unless one becomes pushy and doesn't pick up on the signals that another isn't in the mood to interact. Then the nicest people can get a bit nasty. Stay friendly and nice,if you remain true to you own nature and don't let the world turn you bitter,you will like yourself more in the long run.
2006-08-30 05:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by jidwg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about it. niceness is good. Many people will take advantage of you but many people will appreciate the niceness. What you have to do is draw a line. Be nice like you are, but learn to notice when someone is taking advantage of you. Or if they are being rude, don't shoot back. Just say "well sorry to hear about that" or "I'm sorry, I was just trying to be nice. Or "I was just interested" Depending on what you were trying to say. But don't say that all mean and snappy. Just say it just as nice and hopefully they will be a bit calmer. maybe even say sorry to you. The whole deal is to just make it seem you believe it to be your fault. that you caused them to be mean. Even if you weren't. It ends things instead of looks like a confrontation.
Don't stop being nice, the world needs people like that!
2006-08-29 17:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are being nice to the wrong people. There are people out there who see niceness and will take advantage of you for it.
2006-08-29 16:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by gasdf a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I feel the same way. People do tend to take advantage so make sure you stand up for yourself.
2006-08-29 18:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because after a while, people confuse kindness with weakness, so they try to take advantage of it.
2006-08-29 17:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the way of life but I'm sure you are exagerating.
Usually, people like people they can push over so maybe they feel better about themselves by putting you down.
Sux!
2006-08-29 16:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they think they can get over on you. Continue to be the better person... and in the end you will come out on top.
2006-08-29 16:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by bucks110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people see being nice as being a pushover.
2006-08-29 22:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz they think that u rnt being sincere and it happens 2 me too -five munitets i imd some1 and said wats up dog and they were like wats up lozr
2006-08-29 17:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by x1yofuzzy1x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they're jerks. not everyone is like that, you just seem to have bad luck with the people you're nice too
2006-08-29 17:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by opi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋