if your child said to you i cant wait until you die..?

Question

what would your response be because this im watching supernanny and this woman has turned and said to her 11yr old son i cant wait until you are put into a home. i think this is terrible the son wouldnt of said this if she hadnt of said she didnt give a monkeys about him. my daughter has said once before she wished i was dead but only because i put her in time out i didnt respond because i know she does not mean it. What would you do

Answer 1

I like the way you dealt with it. Never let them see that they can get you emotional or they will know what buttons to push.

Answer 2

Wow, that's a toughie! I think boys though (speaking from expirence) say all sorts of things they don't mean when they are upset and mad. But, I have always told my son (who's 13) that he needs to sit and think about the things he says even when he's upset. Seems he would feel really horrible if he made a choice and said something hurtful, or hateful, and then something happened to me, or his dad. That he would have to live withself for the rest of his life knowing that was the last thing he told us.
I think alot of the things kids say though, are things they've heard others say to other people though. Which at certain ages they go through phases (like the preteens/teens) where they are going through so many changes and all, that their emotions are going nuts!

Answer 3

I would do something, I would never just say nothing, you need to teach your child, regardless of his/her age that one needs to be careful with what one says and that everything said has its consequences... If my child would tell me that, whether it is out of anger or any reason, I would tell her/him, then your wish will be granted... As of today you have no mother and I would walk away... I would not punish him/her and would simply ignore him/her.... This is only to see how long he/she would last until coming to ask me for something, food, etc..., but I would not give in regardless. . . Once, and they will talk to you, they come talk like nothing, I would say, You cannot speak to me as you wished me dead and therefore, I am no longer here with you... And I would take that chance to talk to him/her., how that is how life would be without having a mother, they would not be able to come and talk to you and ask you for anything.... Sometimes tough love is the best punishment... A parent needs to teach their child(ren) to have a conscious and feel guilty when they have done or said wrong, as if they do not teach them that, on the day of tomorrow, they will be the most ungrateful teenagers and adults ever... I teach my kids that having a mother is a luxury because not all kids are that lucky, and to have a mother who provides and loves them, is simply a blessed life and I will make sure that they know this and show me their gratitude with their actions...

Answer 4

No parent wants to be told that their child wishes that they were dead. I don't have children, but If I did have a child and my child looked me in the eyes and said that they wished I was dead, I would look at my kid and say be careful what you wish for.

Then I would have hubby and the rest of the family play a trick on my kid, saying that I had died in the middle of the night, while I, of course would be hidden. Then after half a day or so of watching everything, I would come out and then say to my kid, "See why I told you to be careful what you wish for?"

After a scare like that, the kid will think differently about how they use their words and how they talk to their parents.

Answer 5

Well the child is only 11 years old. I used to say some mean stuff to my parents, just because i didnt get what i wanted. But i never meant what i said. Since i am now older, i realize that i love my parents and i dont know what i would do with out them. The kid will grow out of it (hopefully) but if i was the parent, i would have them realize all that i do for them,and how much i really love them and care about them.

Answer 6

I think sometime kids say mean things just to make the parent feel bad. Mostly if the child doesn't get what they want. They do not mean it. I said some terrible things to my parents growing up, even though I never meant it.

Answer 7

Kids say mean things all the time when they are upset. After they calm down sit and talk to him about it. Tell him be careful what you wish for because sometimes you get it. Ask him how he would feel if someone told him that.

Answer 8

I would sit them down and tell them that I won't have them speaking to me or anyone in that manner.I would allow them to be angry,but tell them that that language is totally unacceptable and that one day when they learn what they said really means,they will regret ever saying it.I would then tell them how much I love them,no matter how they feel(or think they feel) about me.

Answer 9

If my kid told me he can't wait until I die I would probably say nither can I! Just to see what they say! Because when they say it they are just mad so I know he wouldn't really mean it so it wouldn't really bother me that much.

Answer 10

I'd die just to prove that she could wait. Then I would come back and haunt her everyday of her life. lol