The guy I have been talkin to is jus a friends wit benefits but sometimes he acts like he wants to be together and other times he acts like all he wants is sex...I kno hes with other girls but I mean I am getting attached and I can't just walk away because I am to into him...I have tried to talk to him before but i doesn't really work bcuz he jus listens for a lil while, says wat i want to hear, and then its done...but idk wat he wants...some days he tells me that we are goin to get married and have a baby and all tha stuff other days he says we are jus REAL good friends...wow so wat do i do...and how do i kno wat he feels...
2006-08-29 09:33:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but can't u normally tell if a guy likes u by tha way he looks at u? and he looks at me like he wants to be wit me...
2006-08-29 09:39:02 · update #1
but i feel like i am already in too deep to jus walk away without getting hurt...
2006-08-29 09:41:00 · update #2
Girl I have been where you are. It sucks!! I was in the same situation with this guy for almost two years. I got so attached to him but the longer it went on I started seeing how he was and that all it was about was the sex. You deserve better than that!! You need to go and find you a real man. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-29 09:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice to you is to cut your ties to this "relationship" as soon as humanly possible. The whole idea of friends with benefits may sound great, but when you get down to it....it just doesn't make any sense. Very few people, especially females, have the ability to have sex with someone without eventually developing "more than friendly" feelings for them. Not to mention the fact that he is having sex with other women too. This leaves you wide open for all kinds of infections and diseases. Whether you are using protection or not..NOTHING IS 100%!!! You have no idea what he or the other girls may have. He obviously does not respect you....you yourself said he says what he knows you want to hear, just to keep you putting out. If he really cared about you, he would realize what this is doing to you emotionally. Regardless, this is a dangerous situation both mentally and physically. Respect yourself enough to take care of yourself. You are better than what you are taking part in. Save sex for someone who deserves to be that intimate with you....and if you think you need to have it anyway...stick to masturbation. I know some people think it is dirty...but it is the safest sex out there. It also puts you in touch with your body and can make you a better lover. Atleast you know where YOU have been.
2006-08-29 09:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by DawnMarie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Lindsey K,
I never understood the "friends with benefits" thing either. I know friends, and bootie call, and lovers, but not friends with benefits. You two need to sit down and talk about it some more.
You have to go with what makes you feel better, so you need to figure out what you want out of the relationship and then see if he's up for it. Guys just hate the "just being friends" thing though. I'm sorry, but we like sex too much. But I suspect that he'll go along with anything you say.
--Rick
2006-08-29 09:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK YOU HAVE TO WALK AWAY!
Friends with benefits will never be anything more, Esp. if the guy is acting like what you described...Sure He may want to be with you but in the end you wont be together for long just back where you started from...so just walk away and find someone better!
2006-08-29 09:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only benefit of a friend is to have someone to talk, cry and laugh with. You need someone else, I know you don't want to hear that but from what I am reading you need to move on. Good luck.
2006-08-29 10:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is getting the milk for free, so why buy the cow. I know how it is to hook up with some one that you think might be something more,but we are the ones fooling ourselves. They starting out just wanting sex, what makes us think they want more. Men are generally scared **** of commitment, so when the sex is offered for free they will not hesitate to tell you what you want to hear just so they can keep getting it for free.
Leave his *** alone girl....get your self a real man, because it sounds like this one is still in training!!!!
2006-08-29 09:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have a friend with benefits. It really depends on if you want to be with him or not. You two need to figure it out before someone gets the wrong idea or they get hurt.
2006-08-29 09:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by bronco_cutie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The term "Friends with benefits" are friends that you have sex with, kiss, etc.
This is just a "physical" relationship.
I really doubt he loves you in anyway, try dumping him as whatever he is and lose contact with him and see how hard he tries to get you back.
2006-08-29 09:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by themicrowavemaster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on, he doesn't know what he wants. Think about it you need somebody that will give you a straight answer not change it every 5 seconds. Try to look for a more stable relationship.
Good luck!!
2006-08-29 09:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by lluvia2wcc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you feel and see what he wants. Tell him you don't want to fall for him so he needs to let you know whether he likes you as a girlfriend or not. If he confuses you tell him that. Nobody wants to get hurt, but it you keep on you will.
2006-08-29 09:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋