Do you think it is necessary to share how many sexual partners you have had in the past with a new one? Isn't the past the past? And if you have been tested and are clean what does it matter? Please help I need some rational answers!
2006-08-29 09:17:08 · 12 answers · asked by maris325 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know. On one hand, it's nice to be honest with people, especially if it's someone you plan on being with a while, but it's also something private. But knowing how many people someone has been with may clue the other person in on what their behavior has been like in the past. Then again, some people can change, I suppose. So it's up to the two people. Either they can share that info, or maybe they would both rather not.
2006-08-29 09:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about him needing to know his limit on how much he should know. And well as long as you are clean it really doesn't matter. But well I know why he is doing it, and well after I explain why, maybe you'll understand why he doing and not be so hard on the fact of why he is doing it.
Well basically he is trying to see how sexually active you really were. I mean if you tell him that you sleeped with at least 60 guys in the past 2 months, well that's alot. I mean it's a guy every day. So well you need to understand, he wants to see what kind of girl you are. I mean if your number is low in a ratio of how many guys you did it with to the time frame that you had sex. Then well he will know that you are a girl that wants a serious relationship. And takes sex seriously. And that you are a faithful girl. If he wants a girl like that, then he's got his answer. If you sleep around as much as you change your socks. Then well it's basically saying your a sl*t. And you don't want a serious relationship, but only looking for a good time. And you just like to have fun having sex with guys. And well if he wants a sl*tty girl then he would be ok with it. And well either way it also tells him how experienced you are with however many guys you've done it with.
I'm not calling you a sl*t by the way, just giving examples fo what would be going on in his mind. But well basically that's why he is questioning that. It's wonderful that you are clean. So well that will be a big plus in his head. So well it's up to you, I mean if you want to tell him, then that's your choice, if you don't then just communicate it out to him that you aren't comfortable sharing that kind of information, because at this point it really doesn't matter, because what really matters is the fact that you are clean.
So well do what you feel is best, and hopefully everything works out for the best, Take care
2006-08-29 16:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past but it would be nice to know what you are getting into. The amount of sexual partners explains alot about yourself. If that person loves you it wouldn't matter. You don't want to be in a relationship under faulse pretense so don't lie.
2006-08-29 16:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter . The past is the past , but it makes the guy more comfortable about you and him. Just tell him that you've been with 3 people.I always heard that 3 was a good #.
2006-08-29 16:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by MaeMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wouldnt want to be surprised by taking someones virginity would you?
My current boyfriend never asked me (i did ask him because it is important to me) and when he did find out he wished he had because my number is much lower than he thought and it made him feel a little more special.
I like to know my partners number because you will know if they're experienced or not, also if they take sex lightly. I do NOT take sex lightly so it's nice to know if my man does. People have pasts yes, my man has a high number, but it's in his past - he's not like that anymore.
the past is in the past but what are you trying to hide?
2006-08-29 16:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and we haven't discussed it with each other. It's totally not important to either one of us because that took place in the past when our relationship hadn't even begun yet.
2006-08-29 16:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by bessierush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a rather personal question. And yes, the past is the past.
2006-08-29 16:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by peterboro_first 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think it is somthing that you need to sharethat info... but it is usually the girl that wants to know... not the guy so you must have a fariy boyfriend... come on over here and ill show you a real man ;)
2006-08-29 16:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only before you marry should you go there. And only if he asks. If you would be resentful about it in the future then you should confide in him and let him know what he is getting into. Most mature men wouldn't even want to know. Those who would might use it against you in the future.
2006-08-29 16:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary to tell a new partner about your previous relationships unless you want to.
2006-08-29 16:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋