Does anyone else have a 6 year old that is going on 16?

Question

My 6 year old son is rude, has an attitude, sulks, refuses to do things, says he hates you, lifes not fair, fights etc - my mum & dad have just come back with him from a holiday and said if they had been with him for another day he would have been close to death!!!!!!!!!
Does this mean by the time he is 16 he will have got it out of his system?(wishful thinking)
We have done all the supernanny things - charts, praise, time out etc you name it we have tried it - what do we do????

Answer 1

My 6 year old son is just like that. He tells me I am mean, I don't love him. He calls me boring... a little hurtful, because I have given my all for them. I have tried a different approach to treat his selfishness. No more spankings, no more pleading with him. I have taken most of the toys from his room and things he likes. I have explained to him those things need to be earned. I have written a routine at the door for him to follow and only if is done he gets to watch TV, get snacks, Play video games. It has been working and he seems a bit happy. Yesterday he did not want to finish his school work, My husband wanted to spank him, but we came to an agreement that the spanking is only for Drastic measures, If he was going to get hurt or hurt his sisters so we told him you take your work and turned it in how you think is done. If it comes back and the teacher says its missing work, you know we were right and you would be grounded from the TV the whole night. Do we have a deal? Well the only thing you have to do is talk to him and make sure he understand the consequences. Give him only one warning and the best thing is BE PERSISTENT!! that is all I could come up with.. You know what he likes the most and start taking that away if he doesn't listen. Always come through with your word. Good Luck!!

** All my day is consume by my children, I put their needs above mine, The problem is not lack of attention, It is his stubborn personality. He is his own different person.. It only needs to be tought how he can control himself and how to behave..

Answer 2

This means you need to start treating him like he's 6. He behaves like that because of something you are doing to enable his behavior. Treat him like a 6 y/o - meaning, you tell him to do things, you don't ask him, you don't allow back talk, you set firm rules down and you make sure to follow them (i.e. punishments), have a chore list and if he doesn't do it then take away things, etc. You have to show him that you are the parent and he is a child.
This will be VERY tough at first - prepare for tons of tantrums, screaming, etc. But, it will be worth it and after about 2 weeks it will get much better. Your child just has to know that you mean business. You might also consider getting him involved in some sports or some kind of extra curricular class where he can interact with children his age - that is very important. Many times kids act older because they are around adults way too much.

Answer 3

Hmmm... this sounds like my 6 year old great nephew who lives with me. We tried all of the balogna that the "professionals" recommended and nothing seemed to work. Then we discovered that he was autistic and a.d.h.d. What a combination.

Against my belief of using drugs to maintain a calmer child we had him put on prescription for his ailments. Wow! I'm telling you it seemed to work. When he has his regular medication he is one smart kid. He has a memory like an elephant, a whiz at math, can read very well and carry on intelligent conversation.

But when the meds wear off...look out he is a cyclone of terror.

We hope that he will grow out of it with age. We still keep him physically active but the mental activity is non existent when he is not on his medication. He can't concentrate on anything except one particular computer game that I have and even then he can only last an hour, which by the way is quite a bit longer than when he is not on the computer.

He also has a fixation with trains.

Hope something here helps.

Answer 4

Take away his favourite things if he does not behave. Supernanny is a load of **** anyway. I have a 4yr old brother and I'm 14 and we don't treat our parents like that. A smack usually works, sorry if that sounds inhumane or whatever but I am NOT saying you should beat up your child or anything like that, but even if you hold your hand right near him and slap your own wrist (not hard obviously) the sound should be enough to stop him for a while (as long as he cannot see that it is not him you hit). My parents did that they never really hurt us but we are both very well behaved, well I am usually and I do not tell my parents I hate them or swear in front of them or anything like that and my brother certainly doesn't.

Answer 5

Seems like he needs a little more attentionthan he is getting.
. My almost six year old sometimes behaves the same way with My wife and I have noted it is usually when she hasnt spent enough time with him.
Also You need to be firm with him and at the same time caring.
Ask him non important stuffI ( so that he doesnt feel he is always being told to do stuff) but tell him firmly the stuff you think is important like cleaning up after he plays.
Our son does sulk when doing chores but he knows there is no way out of it.
Children need to be given boundaries and you as a parent will have to draw them.
Also I wouldnt give so much importance to what your parents said, as you wrent there to see what exactly went on. Maybe your parents nagged him too much.

Answer 6

First of all - ignore all the people who have suggested smacking. Children learn their behaviour and you will just encourage your child to be violent to others. You say you have tried all the 'super nanny things', but how long did you give them before you gave up. Bad behaviour cannot be corrected over night and you have to be prepared to stick with it. My general advice would be to make sure that you spend quality time with your child, because quite often bad behaviour is just attention seeking. To a child, any attention (even negative) is better than nothing. That is they will act bad just to get you to notice them.! Be firm. Not too much attention when he is naughty (hence quiet step or corner) and load of praise when he does anything good. Be patient and stick with it. Good luck

Answer 7

Stuff the Supernanny and give him a good smack. He needs disipline now, or he will end up an unemployable 16-year-old.

WHO IS IN CHARGE HERE?

Answer 8

He sounds like my 6 year old. We went to a psycologist who said our child was doing this due to Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. Some of it may just be a small child but he may need some counseling. You should check with your insurance to see if they cover it as mine did.

Answer 9

My son is 7 and I just let him go live with his Dad, cos I couldn't handle his behaviour and the impact it was having on me and the rest of the family. (I have another son and a husband.)

Answer 10

I have a six year old little girl and if she ever behaved that way she would spend a lot of time sitting in a corner after I spanked her butt!