I find myself wanting to sabatage a relationship and have done this before.?

Question

I'm soooo worried that it won't turn out happy, HELP!

By the way, It's My own relatioship with a Guy I'm involved with--He's not Married People!

Answer 1

I doubt you would be successfull in sabotaging it as sweet as you are he'd love you more. Hey whoever he is he cares about you deeply or he wouldnt have even started talking to you. There could be nothing but a HAPPY ending.

Answer 2

Your relationship or someone elses?

If it's your own, you're just making yourself miserable. It is better to wait and see how it turns out than take matters into your own hands beforehand. There is no shame in being dumped. There really isn't.

If you are sabotaging other people's relationships, they should learn better than to let others interfere with their love. If they let you, that means that they have fears and problems of their own they need to work though anyway. You would not be able to sabotage a good relationship without actually physically hurting people.

I hope you learn to be more optimistic and try your hardest to make the relationships work. If you fail so what. But it's silly to ruin it for no reason.

Best of luck :)

Answer 3

Oh, I totally understand! You're afraid of being hurt, so you find a way to ruin it, or run away out of fear you'll just get attached and then do something to ruin it down the road. These are normal female feelings (and some men have them, too). It's okay! You need time and someone to talk to about it, like maybe an older female relative that you trust? Maybe a counselor of some sort? There's nothing wrong with you. Your confidence will come in time.

Answer 4

If you're not all that into the relationship, save yourself the time and energy of sabbotaging it, and just end it outright. Most people would appreciate a quick ending over all the game playing.

You need to decide what you want from a relationship before you get involved with anyone else in the future. Sabbotaging a relationship is juvenile and cruel.

Answer 5

Stop worrying whether you'll have a happy ending or not. That will only add tension to your relationship and stress on yourself. Enjoy yourself and your significant other's company. Relationships will work it's way out in the end pending on how much you care about the other and the "us" in the relationship.

Answer 6

Shame and Self-Sabotage: Coping with the Legacies of Troubled Families
Augustine Baron, Jeffrey C. Kulley
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Growing up in a troubled family leaves deep wounds in children whose basic physical and emotional needs go unattended through neglect or abuse by primary caregivers. This group helps members explore how their needs were not satisfied due to troubled family backgrounds. The function of self-sabotaging behavior is examined as a means of protecting oneself from painful, shame-based emotions, and methods for healing problematic feelings and counter-productive behavior through individualized action plans are discussed. Significant use of experiential exercises helps participants explore the role of shame in their own lives.

Answer 7

If you are purposely sabatoging these relationships... its because deep down you see a problem with them and cant be upfront about it and just break it off... So you purposely ruin them so that the other person has the burden of ending it.

Answer 8

the only 1 that can fix this is u. u need more confidence stop worryin may B your really not happy with that person and your subconscious is helpin u along. may b u won't sabotage it if u really like the person.

Answer 9

Why do you feel you want to sabatage a this relationship??

What is it that you're afraid of?

Answer 10

You should stop being so damn scandalous and get your own man instead of wrecking other people's relationships. Don't you have anything better to do with your time than create drama in people's lives? Get a hobby, for god's sake!