I have been more or less best friends with this guy for 1 1/2 years. In that time, I have watched him grow more than anyone. He has many problems, but I have watched him work through them like no one before. He is handsome, my best friend, we always have fun together. We also have sex. Problem is, I have an idea in my head that he is not "the one"...for a long time, I didn't think of him as sexy at all, because of some issues he used ot have around sex. But he is dealing with ALL of his issues...but I can;t quite purge the memory of the way things used to be. Also, I am not sure that I could ever feel that way about him...but in point of fact, we talk 3 times a day, we enjoy being intimate (although it's not as amazing as it used to be with my ex-boyfriend, who had a lot of emotional problems he wouldn't deal with and was very immature to boot) and he is very caring about me. Should I go for it, or continue top situ on the fence?
2006-08-29 08:53:49 · 11 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just do what you think is right, if you think you love him or could love him go for it. ..but on the other hand it could ruin the relationship you have as friends.. Just remember whatever you choose you can't take back!
2006-08-29 09:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by {♥} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship needs to start of as friends in my opinion. That way, you already know so much about the other one, everything else just seems to fall into place. You are already having sex with him? You are already more than just friends. I have a lot of great guy friends, but we don't sleep together. If you still get a long great after you have already had sex, I bet things will get even better once you become a couple. Is he dating other girls? Because I bet if you start seeing him all over other girls, you start to get jealous and realize how much you really do like him. Good luck... but I say go for it, you might as weel, you are already on that side of the fence.
2006-08-29 09:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recognize it truly is 5 years too overdue and not in all probability an answer, yet i'm interior the comparable boat. i'm a male, 31, and that i've got a girl ideal chum, 32, with whom i'm in love. She. Is. alluring. we've commonly used one yet another approximately 2.5 years. She is oblivious to the actuality that I certainly have emotions for her. basically on the instant i found myself enormously attractive for her (better than ordinary) and imagined us having a speedy puppy-style consultation in her storage! She had on the shortest shorts ever, and how her blouse accentuated her completely-sized perky breasts. I basically needed her so undesirable.
2016-11-06 01:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,
That's great to be friends with such a great guy!!
I don't think HE'S the problem, sounds like YOU have the problem. YOU can't get past how HE used to be?
If you ain't feeling it now, you never will...but honestly? You need to get over yourself, you have a great relationhsip but you don't know if you should go for it?
Yikes, pity to be YOU!
2006-08-29 09:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends and stop the sex. Find a man without all the baggage of these two.
2006-08-29 08:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a friend ruins the relationship that you have worked so hard on as friends. Don't do it.
2006-08-29 08:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are in an adult relationship... Be mature and tell him how you feel. If you feel he is not the one, then let him go so he can find the one for him.
2006-08-29 08:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have problems. i dont beleive in sex before marriage but thats not why i dont like you. why would you have sex with him if you dont like him in that way. thats messed up. your pretty much using him. he feels that way about you but you just want to have sex with him. dont go out with him. hes too good 4 u!
2006-08-29 09:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say don't date him because if yall break up then you won't be able to go back to where you used to be with him. its not worth it to risk your relationship!!
2006-08-29 09:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by christmasangel1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah why not....at least ur going to feel comfortable with them ....i say go for it .....
2006-08-29 08:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋