i have four children?

Question

three of them are boys ,12-9-7- and my daughter is 2 michael-cody-kevin-and corina, plus i work 16 hour shifts and keep a house hold together, where do i find time for myself?????? from a very stressed and distressed mom, ps i love my children very much, and yes im marri

sorry spelled married wrong lol, gotta go clean the house now .

Answer 1

I have 4 children as well, I am married (well we won't go into that!) I work and coach and do everything around the house, and basically am in the same shoes you are, I have a 13 yr, 12 yr old and 9 yr old--girls,and have a 5yr old boy--ever wanna chat/vent~ just add me - [e-mail]

Answer 2

Boy are there some STUPID posts in response to your comment! Sorry for that. I understand how you feel and this is one thing you can do to help yourself feel like yourself and not a work-horse... Make Yourself A Priority. Not all the time, but just pick one day a week, or one four hour block if you don't have a day, and ONLY do things for yourself. Read, shop, take a class... whatever it is, DO NOT feel guilty for doing it because the rest of your family has their own lives, don't they? You can too. Force the time in there at the sacrifice of something someone else can do instead of you. Your kids and your husband will understand that you are a person with interests and goals and they will give you the time if you ask for it. If it is your job to 1. work 2. take care of house 3. take care of kids 4. take care of husband, etc. then it is the most important job you have to take care of the person that enables all that to happen - YOU! Have fun, set boundaries, ASK and you will recieve! haha : )

Answer 3

That is incredible! Take the time for yourself while you are working. While you are working or running your household, take as much pleasure and hold the most enjoyable thoughts as you can. Also encourage the support of your family to be part of the team.

I work 7 days a week and the more positive I think the better I feel and the more time I have. Otherwise I get lost in the chaos and any free time I have is filled by stress.

Keep fighting! But cut back your schedule before you have a breakdown instead of after.

Answer 4

Maybe get your kids involved in some activities that will get them out of the house so you can do something with yourself. Also, tell your husband that you really need some time for yourself. Maybe you and he can work out something that allows you to take a day off and he watches the children. Or ask some friends to help you out with babysitting or hire a babysitter if your 12 year old is unable to watch the younger children.

Answer 5

Wow I know where you are coming from been there done that. I have 3. I make 1 day a week for me not the whole day but a few hours. I keep that same day every week. Everyone knows that I have that time on that day. I know it is hard when you have such young ones. Find a good babysitter. Things will get better.

Answer 6

Why are you working so much? Does your husband work? Start getting the older children to help with laundry and cleaning and some of the household duties that they can help with, they will learn responsibility and probably have fun too. Then, cut back on your work hours... you're life will pass by and you will have worked it away. Time and health is more important than money, babe.

Answer 7

You seem to spend most of your days at work. That should be a break from the children at least. I don't know what to tell you, but some people are stuck with the kids 24/7.

Answer 8

I understand being stressed! You are one very busy mama!

If you don't mind the suggestion, how about if your husband takes the kids for a couple of hours? You could go out and pamper yourself for a little while and the kids might just love to get Daddy alone for a while.

Answer 9

Dont sacrafice, just pour out love, justice and mercy.
A saying in the bible I liked to read when I feel overwhelmed by trying to do it all when I can't.
It's okay to be weak and ask for help.
Bless you and take a bath tonight with some candles and read a book and call of work just for the hey of it and go spend the day hiking. You only have one life, don't be a slave. Learn to live and love.

Answer 10

I have 4 children also and raised them without a father but my family helped me a great deal. I feel your pain there, hard to find time for yourself, mine are now grown and i find myself wishing they were young again. Have your husband let you have a night to yourself or go out with a girlfriend at least once a week. You need to get away from it all.