2006-08-29 08:29:44 · 26 answers · asked by donnasinger@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Home-wreckers like you tick me off. Stop trying to ruin life for an entire family! I have no respect for anyone in an affair but especially so for the scum that gets involved with somone else's spouse.
2006-08-29 08:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by average joe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While everyone else is rude to you, I will try and be a little more understanding.
I find your boyfriend is more to blame than you. Everyone always wants to blame the one on the side though, right??
YOU are not doing anything wrong. You are seeing only one man whom you obviously love. He is the one cheating around on everyone.
I think one thing you must understand is that this man is also cheating on you, not just his wife. You are sharing him with his family and this is not fair for you of for the family. You are both only getting parts of him, not all of him. You shouldnt want that for yourself.
However, since you've been with this man for 7 years, it is obvious that you love him. Unfortunately, he does not feel 100 percent wholeheartedly the same way. If he did, he would have seen that he doesnt love his wife, therefore left and then began to date you. I am a firm believer that once a cheater always a cheater, and I've seen this happen as well.
And even more, why should he leave his family? He has spent many of years with them and putting time in with them. His wife has done the same...given him a child and done wifely things for him. I do not know anything really about his relationship with his wife or with you, but I do know he probably wont ever leave his wife. She'll leave him (when she finds out about you) before he leaves her. His son is just an excuse. No son will ever understand his father cheating on his mother...its a protection thing, no matter what the age.
I hope you make the right decision for yourself. Forget his wife and son...they have more to do with him than you. Ask yourself: can you be happy being with a man who will only share half his life with you, while you try and share your whole life with him??
Good luck!
2006-08-29 16:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by rachael b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He isn't going to leave is wife. You were wrong to get involved with a married man to begin with. Wrong because you are hurting yourself and hurting his family. No matter what he told you to get you to stay in this arrangement it is wrong. No matter what you told yourself to get yourself to stay in this arrangement it is wrong.
It is really sad and ultimately he is staying for his son and that is exactly who you are both hurting. Do you know you are his son's enemy?? You (and believe me his son when see it this way when he can understand) are taking this man away from his family. You can rationalize this and say if it wasnt' you it would be someone else. Who knows if this is true or not...but it wouldn't be you breaking up a family.
I feel bad for this child. This is really sad.
2006-08-29 17:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by LongAgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he leave?....For 7 years you've proven to him that what he is doing is ok.......He can have his cake and eat it too.....He wont leave even when his son is old enough to understand and I guarantee that there qwill be another reason then. If you are satisfied witht he way things are going...then leave it as it is. But if you think you will change him or force his hand to get him to do something.....then you will be left out in the cold. Just put yourself in his wifes shoes...and remember if he did leave....would you be able to trust him...given his track record?......Good Luck !!
2006-08-29 15:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years. think about this all this time you have been sharing him with his WIFE!! get out of the relationship she's not gonna let him go because youre just his piece of cake when he's feeling for a change of pace. GET OUT!! You need to find someone who is not married and probably your own age. He is older isn't he? Find your own man and make your own life together, not shared memories with another woman.
2006-08-29 15:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by ead824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why expect the son to "understand" something that isn't understandable? Why would you want to be with a man that cheats? You deserve better. Say Good-Bye!
2006-08-29 15:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His son will never understand. How could he? There's no magic age when a son will understand his father leaving his mother for another woman. It isn't going to happen.
2006-08-29 15:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understands what that he is an adulteress. Has no respect for his childs mother.And what about you of all the men in the world you hook up with a married man. Seven years says alot about you and it's not kind.
2006-08-29 16:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by winterbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine being with someone for 7 years. specially is he comes and goes as he pleases. How could you be with someone for that long without being able to live with the person and really have a chance to be together. I bet its a fantasy..half the excitement for him is sneaking around his wife - if he would leave tomorrow I think you would be let down.
2006-08-29 15:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by *TheShryocks* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u feel any guilt at all for having an affair with a married man ?
most married men who cheat on their wives lie to their mistresses and tell them they want out.they always stay married because that brings about balance to their lives .
don't waste your life waiting for someone who's already taken and don't build a life by wrecking somebody else's especially when there is an innocent kid involved.
Move on and fast.
2006-08-29 15:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋