would people think less of me because i'm not a virgin?

Question

i lost my virginity at 13 years old. i am now currently 14. one of my friends now hates me. is this right? aren't i still the same chick? i dont understand. just because i have sex now.

also, im starting to feel guilty about losing it so young. i want to tell my parents but of course i can't. what can i do to get this guilt to go away? or at least help it

Answer 1

First off, Why aren't you in school? And what is done is done, I would not tell your parents, but just know that there are many sexual transmitted disease you could get, then you would have to tell. Think how you feel right now and it only gets worse if you keep that up. You are young and it is your body, and there is not a young man out there that will respect you if you continue sleeping with different guys. Think before you act

Answer 2

Do you have no self repect for yourself and body to have lost it at such a young age? Im not trying to sound like a strict adult, because I am only 19, but I do feel like 13, and 14 years of age is way too young for that. However, it doesnt give your friends the right to hate you because in the end, you are still the same person. If you are feeling guilty for having sex at so young then you definitely should have waited, because only when you are truly with a person you are comfortable with and love then you can do whatever you please. Hmmm, about telling your parents, I would talk with a guidance counselor at school first, maybe if you can talk with them it would help ease you, or another adult at school.

Answer 3

Sadly some people will judge you because of what you have done. Of course, by the time you are 18 a large majority of your contemporaries will also have had sex so as you get older it will matter less and less. As a result, over time the guilt won't seem so overwhelming. Basically what is done is done. You can either let it cripple you or you can focus on other things.

If you are worried about it, keep your mouth shut. Aside from those people who already know, you are under no obligation to give your entire sexual history to everyone you meet.

Answer 4

girl, i am 18. i lost my virginity at 12 to. do not feel guilty at all. there is no law that says u must b a certian age to have sex. however i hope this guy is the same age as u. if u r old enough to start having these feelings of wanting to have sex then ur old enought to have sex. just dont become a little 13 year old slut like the ones on the muary show. stick to 1 guy who isint with u for only 1 thing and always use protection. there is alot of things u can catch out there also mind u, u dont want 2 b a 13 year old with a baby. just be safe!

Answer 5

I "lost" mine at 14, you did what you wanted to. Your friend is just jealous because she is too scared to do it. When you get older, you'll realize this means less and less. People place so much importance on sex when it is just a physical act...it can go either way. You can attach an emotion to it or not. Be proud of the choice you made, and if you feel like you shouldn't be having sex until you're older, then stop doing it until you feel emotionally ready. Take responsibility for your actions!

Answer 6

Hmmm, that's a difficult situation... why does the friend hate you? Had y'all signed one of those abstinence forms together, or something?
And, no, sorry, but, you're really not the same chick.. you've stepped into the big leagues.. the league where it's possible to become pregnant, or contract an incurable disease, or, just some disease that's very hard on your young system..
I wish you good luck in whatever steps you take next.. but, I know you're not going to want to hear this, but, try to abstain now.. don't let this take over your life..
and that's going to be very difficult to do..

Answer 7

some people do look down on others for many different things and that is one of them probably because of your age i disagree with the way society tends to think .you are the same person and if someone hates you then they were not your friend to begin with i think guilt is a sign that it wasn't right for you .telling your parents would be difficult and hard decision to make . hold your head up and stop beating yourself up .whats done is done !search your heart and don't do it again .if it feels wrong then it probably is.

Answer 8

If you thought you loved the guy & then had sex.. sad but you were & are too young. Now it sounds like you are sexually active.. meaning you do it with many guys. Bad deal sweetie.. You are way too young.
Listen please just because you have done it, does not mean you have to do it with anyone else until you are in love & much older. Many young women thing once it's done you have to give it to all the guys. NO TRUE. You are gaining nothing from this behavior. You are endangering your life. Physically & Mentally.

Answer 9

first of all your virginity is not of anybodies business. if your friend doesn't want to be your friend because of that then be thank full you got rid of her, why would you want friends like that. As for your parents somethings are better if they are not told. Keep busy with different things do sports, go into some kind of class (art, dancing, etc) to keep your mind off of sex, so that you don't end up a single mom who did not enjoy her childhood and teenager years.

Answer 10

wow, how did you have the guts to loose it so young. were you not thinking and being rebellious with your parents? oh well, what's done is done. You don't have to tell your parents until you're ready or you feel that they will understand you when you tell them. Tell them in a couple years. If you're worried about getting an STD, then I"m afraid you'll have to tell them now! good luck. And real friends shouldn't hate you for anything you did to yourself!!!