when i say best i mean in the sense of to where they don't go crazy and do something stupid...
the reason i say that is because for all of you that saw my question about this guy, he's pretty much put it out there that if i leave him he will kill him self, but outside of that he's become so much of a dependant on me that i feel bad about how he will feel when i do leave him, i'm friggin nuts right?
i pity him and his whole script so much that i feel like responsible for how his life turns out and this "captain save-a-him" **** is wearing on me, has anyone out there ever gotten into this kind of crap and made it out alive?
2006-08-29 08:08:52 · 15 answers · asked by princesstheruler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LIZ THAT IS MOTHER BLEEPIN BRILLIANT!!!!!
2006-08-29 08:16:04 · update #1
You could play that paul simon song about 50 ways to leave your lover . . .
You could talk to a counselor and get some advice, and maybe go to couples counseling to break up more smoothly.
Or you could just set a clear boundary in a non-violent way by saying something like: "This relationship is not working for me, and I feel the need to make a clean break with you."
Ultimately, you can't hold yourself responsible for how he feels or what he will do to himself.
2006-08-29 08:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I had a real momma's boy once too. It's annoying as ****, and there is never a nice way of saying that they gotta let go of their momma's hand OR that momma is actually just manipulating her son's love for her in order to make sure that he ALWAYS does whatever it is her pretty selfish little head wants.
My advice? He probably is simply exaggerating the intensity of his feelings for you, comparing his love for you to his desire to even live. If he is indeed a momma's boy, than he'll find a way to survive. Because he already has THE woman model in his life: his momma. Girlfriends are only secondary, and the love he as for his momma will always come first as well as manage to be enough for him when he is trying to cope with a break-up.
2006-08-29 08:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by coletteraubal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. Dont let him put you on a guilty trip which is exactly what he is doing. Or in other words he is using emotional blackmail. DONT let him do that to you. Kindly tell him that the relationship between the two of you isnt working on your part. If he starts with the " Well I will just go kill myself", tell him that you are sorry he feels that way but you have to do whats best for you. Believe me unless he is totally crazy he wont do it. He is just seeing how far he can push your buttons. Good luck.
2006-08-29 08:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, dating a "mama's boy" would be good, because they know how to treat a woman. On the second hand, they may be to comitted for you (which is probably what happened in your relationship) I would say that if you do it in anyway yoy can dream of, the results would be the same. To save you SOME giult, i'd say you should do it over the phone.
2006-08-29 08:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by rawrawree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Piss off MOM. She won't let you stay around. I have in the past given a gift box to both my BF and his mom. Moms box had an apron with the strings cut off and BF gift had the strings. I enclosed a note that said hey I cut the strings for you since you were having such a hard time. It was easy to leave after that.
2006-08-29 08:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if ya leave him and he wants to do away with himself better now then later. sounds like this guy will do this with any other gal cause he's a insecure idiot and all he is doing is using ya.
who wants to be around anyone who says there gonna take their life anyways? this person dont need a girlfriend or wife they need mental help !
2006-08-29 08:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by wisrebel13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him. My mommas boy said all that crap and never followed through with it.
2006-08-29 08:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
momma said life is like a box of chocolates, **** i forgot the rest
2006-08-29 08:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it's called a .45, mase, and a order of protection to protect you.....he may need to see a psychologists, mental health expert and have a white jacket put on him and tied down.
2006-08-29 08:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a girl he will like more then you. Make him fall in love with her. Give him every oppertunity for fall in love with her. Leave them alone. Give them hotells any thing you can think of
2006-08-29 08:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋