i'm 31 + still not had kids..will i regret if i don't have them?

Answer 1

Depends if you want them, that's something you have to decide.

Answer 2

Well I am in the same boat as you, I am married and 28 and no kids, and I keep thinking... Geesh they are so hard to take care of, I love kids and have great nieces and nephews, but I do realize it is a lot of work. So I keep waiting, not sure what I am waiting on. Actually I would like to adopt. Goodluck and I believe you will know when the time is right have a sister in law who waited till she was 35 and a cousin who did also, and they are great parents I think age helps with raising them also, I am sure I will get to hear how a 18 year old is a great mother, but I think you appreciate them and have more patience when you are older, I believe if you are really young, you are still selfish. Which we are suppose to be. Goodluck!

Answer 3

Do you want them?

If you do, your conception chances reduce drastically after 35. Something to bear in mind if you are planning to have a baby in the next few years.

You could always adopt or foster a child - there are thousand of children in homes around the country who are desperate for a family. It's hard work but extremely worthwhile.

At the end of the day, having a child is a privilege, not a right.

Answer 4

Yes, you will, and no you won't.
It may sound like a joke but it is true. When faced with a huge decision like this one--and they don't get much bigger-
-NO MATTER what you decide you probably will regret it.
It is the nature of making life-altering decisions.
I had 2 sons and loved raising them. I had a nice home, a husband, money to send them to music camp, karate class, buy them $100 blue jeans, and spend lots of time with them.
Their lives and mine were not perfect, but we didn't have to struggle financially, and we had lots of fun times.
My older son is an engineer with a fine family.
My younger son is in prison for assault. He is mentally ill.
I love them both. One causes me great pride and one great pain.
My sister chose not to have children, and is 52 years old now.
She has not looked back. She doesn't like kids. She thinks kids are wiggly, dirty, untameable little brutes. (She is right, of course.) She wanted a career and freedom to go on vacation at the drop of a hat. She has that. She has a beautiful house with the same dishes she bought 35 years ago. (None got broken.)
She has 8 cats.
She also has the pride and pain of being an aunt to my sons. She could have doted on them, but she barely spoke to them their whole lives. We figure they are better off not knowing her.
On the other hand, I love kids. I baby-sat as a teen. I worked as a clown and an actress for my sons' schools as they were growing up. I taught my son's kindergarten class to cross-stitch! I am very patient. I think kids are disarmingly honest, creative, hilarious little monkeys. (Of course, I'm right, too.)
My advice: Don't have a child just because your biological clock is ringing. Don't have a child because you got knocked-up by accident. Don't have a child because your momma is bugging you for grandchildren.
The only reason to have a child is because you can't imagine NOT having one.
Think about having a mentally ill or handicapped child--it happens to the best of us. Would you be able to give him the kind of care he deserves? If not, spend the next few years getting an education so you can support yourself and a child.
While you're at it, volunteer to teach Sunday School, read to kids in the hospital, coach soccer, do something, so you find out how ready you are to run your life like a clock, and run a child's life, too. You will be surrounded by other people's kids for 20 years!
Are you emotionally ready to be a mother? I was 35 when my last son was born. I was ready.
Now, my older son is my best friend, and I am so grateful to have him in my life. I look forward to getting to know my younger son, when he is stabilized and free again.
Some people spend a lot of time agonizing over old decisions. I don't. I did what I had to do at the time, and am reaping the rewards and punishment now. Good luck!

Answer 5

Depends on the person.

First, 31 is not too late to have kids. Women can have healthy babies well into their thirties.
Second, you don't HAVE to have kids! it's a personal choice! Life can be very fulfilling with or without your opwn children
Third - if you don't have kids, you can always adopt
Fourth - there are plenty of singles and couples who made conscious decisions to never have kids, and there are support groups for folks like that - you don't have to regret it, it just depends on if it is something you truly want or not, and how fulfilled you feel about life, in general.

Answer 6

You might regret it, it depends a lot on your personality, your goals in life and if you are committed to someone who wants a family.

Even at 31+ you have a lot of time left to decide to have kids. After 35 or 36 your eggs start to degrade, but that doesn't mean you can't have a happy healthy baby.

Kids are great, but if it's not for you, don't feel guilty about it.

Answer 7

That's a very personal question. Some people choose never to have kids and for some people, the choice is made for them as they are not able to have kids. If you want to have a kid then do it or just let it happen naturally and if it is meant to be, then it will. I never thought I wanted kids until I got pregnant. Now I couldn't imagine life without him. I may even have another one. Good luck with the decision.

Answer 8

The average age for becoming a first time parent has gone up. So at 31 you still got a lot of time. But you have to work out the pros and cons of waiting. Good luck.

Answer 9

No-one can answer that for you. but I'm 33 and still dont regret it. I knew from a very early age that I didnt want them. If you are the same I would say no you wont regret it. Dont have them because you think you should. Thats why there are so many f*cked up kids on the streets!!

Answer 10

There isn't a rule book on life. Every woman is different when it comes to having children. I have three great kids and would be lost without them. But if your the type that doesn't have a interest in having children don't let society pressure you into doing something you don't want to do just to be part of status quo. Follow your heart...that will never fail you!!!

Answer 11

depends, i think if you have to ask you probably will. my aunt never had kids but never regretted it as she can't stand them! you're still young enough that you have some time. but then here i am a 23 year old mum and i love being a mum. you really cannot love anybody more than your own child. but it is hard work. but i wouldn't have liked to be a single parent either so find yourself a good man then think about it...