ok, my boyfriend is 19, and i am 16..since december he has been living with his friend walter and walters parents. We had talked about getting an apartment together when i am 17 when i can move out but Now, my boyfriends brandon is talking about finding a room mate to live with, and i am worried that he with end up finding a female room mate. I have told him that im not comfortable with a room mate that is female..and all he has said was " if the rent is cheap enough then i will live with a female" I told him that if he lives with a female then i am afraid that he will get to know her and talk to her and start likeing her more than me and break up with me. Then he told me how i dont trust him and everything...i do trust him..i just dont trust ANY chicks, i dont want chicks to flirt with him and try to do stuff with him. i just dont know what to do :( . .i am worried and scared..cuz i love my boyfriend to death, and i dont want something to make up break up! What should i do? what u do?
2006-08-29 07:41:48 · 21 answers · asked by inked_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
umm...i would like to get as many answers to this question as possible..because reading a lot of people's opinions can really help me than just a few..
2006-08-29 08:00:07 · update #1
If he moves in with a girl, break up with him.
2006-08-29 07:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are REALLY young and so is he. At this age flirting and changing partners do happen a lot. Anyway try your best in order to make him feel good when he is next to you. There is no way of keeping him from living with a female room mate if things turn out to be that way. Just be cool and dont get desperate. Act like you trust him, but keep an eye on how they will look to each other, talk about each other, etc
2006-08-29 14:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Graça 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I understand your concern on him getting a female roommate and yes you say that you trust him but you are not showing him that you do if you don't trust him with a female roommate. I understand that you love him and all but yes a relationship is built on turst and you not trusting this other female makes you look like yuou don't trust him. You can't say you don't trust someone you don't know. He can get a female roommate that is gay or has a boyfriend or even married for the fact, so its not good to say you don't trust him getting a female roommate. I use to saythe same thing to my boyfriend that i turst him but not other girls but it made it seem as if i didn't trust him in the end. I hope this helps. Best of Luck
2006-08-29 14:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Babygurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have more faith in yourself then that. Why stress..... if you and him are ment to be together then you will stay together no matter what. If some other girl can come along and spark his intrest and take him away, then he was never yours to be with in the first place. You are way to scared and way to insecure about you and him, which tells me that you already know that he is not the one for you. You are going to lose him because you are already setting the path with your demands and threats. I say........ if you want to keep him and you beleive in your relationship with him......... then stop this now, find your confidence in yourself and be confident in the person you are. Don't be so scared that he is going to leave you for someone else........ I made that mistake........ and I lost him. If he goes, he goes, there are PLENTY of men out there to take his place GLADLY, and if he stays then he stays and all is cool. You are 16 and you have a full life ahead of you, find your confidence in yourself and you will be able to trust in others and if they break that trust......... OTHERS will come along. This was a hard lesson for me to learn....... I hope you learn it early. Blessed be.....
2006-08-29 14:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would talk to him and tell him that you do trust him, just not other girls. Tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Also, try to understand that if he does get a girl room mate, its unlikely she will be 18 or under, so no worries. Not that many people are 18, hot, into your boyfriend, and available. Good luck!
2006-08-29 14:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by psychoRomanianItalian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your fear is totally justified, I agree with you 100%. If my gf moved in with a guy I'd be uncomfortable with it as well. Put it this way, you were honest about your feelings with him, and he should respect that As a guy, I'm gonna say that living with a girl creates a relationship, its automatic, you can't live with someone and not get to know them. And once that happens who knows what else will.
If he really cares about you, he won't move in with a girl, especially knowing how much it would hurt you. If he does anyway, sry to say, he's put your feelings aside. And you should leave him. find someone who will accept your feelings and cherish them. as your boyfriend, he should accept that you don't want him living with another woman, thats WHy you're his girlfriend, you're his woman, and he's your man, no one else. Best of luck, seriously, I hope you come out of this on top, and happy.
2006-08-29 14:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by theonewhoguides 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that would make you upset and heartbroken, but you need to learn to be a little more confident that he won't do anything. If he does, then he never really loved you in the first place. Rent is expensive and if he can find a female, hopefully she won't be a skank and will respect your boundaries and his. In the long run, you have to let what will be, be.
2006-08-29 14:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you should never love anyone to death they make lifetime movies about that.
Talk to him RATIONALLY tell him about your lack of trust with other women not him. If he still insists on moving in with a girl then watch her like a hawk. If you tell a guy NOT to do something thats like an invitation for them to do it.
If you suspect any ill intentioned moves on your man ask him if he denies.....skate. You dont want a guy who lies to you anyway because it wont stop .....EVER.
2006-08-29 14:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Coyote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your relationship based on? Love? Trust? Not much? Try finding a guy who is your age. Then he will be with his parents and you won't have to worry about such things until you've matured a bit more.
2006-08-29 14:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! There are to many IFs in this situation. Wait and see what happens first. When you approach that bridge then cross it. It may or may not be a chick and even if it is a chick then there is a good chance that he is not attracted to her. Don't worry and see what happens.
2006-08-29 14:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by X 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's talking about getting a female roommate, then you need another boyfriend. Moving in together is a big responsibility. Don't take it on lightly.
2006-08-29 14:46:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋