Recently an old friend of my husband passed away. He left behind his fiance and baby girl. My husband hadn't talked to this friend for almost 5 years, no hard feelings, just out of touch. And he has never met his fiance. After attending his funeral, he asks me if we should open a $2000.00 Mutual Fund for the baby, to be accessed at 18 years of age. I had only met this friend once and am wary as they were out of touch for so long. I know his intentions are good, but is he driven by emotion? Is it a wise decision? Am I wrong for being apprehensive?
2006-08-29 07:20:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are right to be apprehensive because it's probably your money too. However, it would establish something good for the child having lost their parent. Perhaps $500 may be more appropriate, and would be just as helpful, or you all could find four other friends of the deceased guy, and each chip in to the fund.
2006-08-29 07:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you both take two weeks to think about it. That way the decision will not be driven by the heat of the moment. Your husband sounds like a very caring person. Bless you both.
2006-08-29 07:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we all just think rational no one would ever get help in need we need people like him to make the world a better place.If however he ends up with a bit of trouble at least he did what he sought was right.
Do the right thing,then ask questions!
Take care!
2006-08-29 07:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you husband is being moved by altruism. He knows that this child will grow up without a father and wants to help in someway. I think it is a really nice gift he is offering to that poor baby. I hope if your family can afford it you will allow him to move forward with his generous gift. Many blessings.
2006-08-29 08:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by LongAgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he want to use your money or the money his friend left behind? if you can afford to part with 20K, ok, if it's his friends money he wants to invest for the daugther, that's ok too.
this tells me they were very good friends, you don't have to see a friend all the time to be close to them, sometimes you can catch-up on years within an hour or two. i know i have the same type of friendships. if one of them passed, i would make sure their loved ones left behind were taken care of.
2006-08-29 07:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by NTH IQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋