I for one think that when a guy asks for money, it's a turn off. Well, if we are in the dating stages it's a turn off.... I had one guy who i'd only been dating for like a month or so, ask me for money to pay his cell phone bill. What tha heck is that about? If it's my hubby, or someone i've been with for like over a year or so, then that's fine, but anything else? No can do buddy. Girls, how do you feel about your date borrowing money? Men, how do you feel about asking...if you even ask at all?
2006-08-29 07:11:51 · 27 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok to be honest... I'd be embarassed as hell to ask my girlfriend (she doesn't exist) for money. I truly believe that men should be capable of supporting themselves and their family (I'm not saying the woman has to stay at home), and for a guy to ask a gal for money that early in a relationship... he had better be going through some very difficult times in his life... here are a couple examples of when it would be ok to ask for money.
1. Your parents died, and you had to pay for their funeral... and now... you need to pay your bills. I think thats "ok".
2. You're homeless, and you dont descriminate about whom you are asking for change.
3. Your girlfriend borrowed money from you....and now its time to ask for it back. I think thats ok.
I dont think there are other exceptions... basically... if you dont have the cash, get a 2nd job. If you have a 2nd job and you still dont have enough cash...get an education... if you have an education and 2 jobs.... and you STILL dont have enough money... stop spending it on crap. Stay away from infomercials, and stop spending so much money on your ringtones.
Seriously ladies... why in the hell would you put up with a mooch trying to ask you for money. If he didn't end up in a full body cast..then he is still capable of earning his own damn money. Dont give him ANYTHING!
Sorry... I hate lame *** dudes that live off of women. It's pathetic.
2006-08-29 07:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems unfair that guys can't ask to borrow money even when the girlfriend is earning much more than him, yet the other way round is acceptable. I guess it depends on the length of the relationship and how it is asked. If you have a good reason, e.g. cash flow and a promise to pay back within a short time and show this is an exceptional circumstance and it is not too much money, then why not? But girls look for guys who could support them if they had a baby, and will not cheat them - so tread with utmost care.
2006-08-29 07:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Borrowing a few bucks is fine. Whatever--we all are short on cash at some point.
My fiance was out of a job for 6 months, and I paid for everything. I didn't love it, but I did it. It had to be done.
I do think that it's a turn-off if on the first 10 or so dates he asks to borrow money. At that point I would wonder if he really is financially secure and responsible to date me.
2006-08-29 07:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends.. it depends on how long u've been together and the type of relationship u have, and if he has a job, if he's responsible, and if he helps u out when ur in trouble...
me personally that's all the factors i'd look at.. cause the last thing i would wanna do is pay a bill that he ran up chatting w/some other chicks.. ask him if u can see the bill if ur gonna pay it... and see what he says...
but my bf and i have been together for 5 1/2 yrs.. if he needed assistance w/a bill then i'd give it to him no problem...
2006-08-29 07:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong if a guy asks you for money if you just started dating! I totally agree with what you said..if it's been over a year or so and you feel comfortable asking that person that yea but a guy shouldn't ask a girl if they just started dating
2006-08-29 07:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by blossom1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER ask for a gal to pay my bills...how degrading! IF that were to happen to me, I would suggest the other get a job, get two jobs, or turn off the cell phone. They are living beyond their means, and things will not be changing unless they have to. NO WAY, JOSE!
2006-08-29 07:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ask my girl for money. I would do without first but thats just me and if a guy does ask his girl for money then he is a bum and needs to get a backbone and start being a man instead of a little boy asking for an allowance.
2006-08-29 07:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Obsidian © 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you all agree with that if my man ask me for something if I have it I'm going to give it to him,because he does the same for me it call a team work and if for one second you girls think it's OK to ask a man to help you and buy you and not help him when he's in need you all are DOGS! My man, My Friend it doesn't matter because I know when I'm down and need they will come and help me and there should be no reason as to y i can't help out. you girls must be under 21.
2006-08-29 07:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys should not be taking girls out if they don't have money to pay for anything...its all about respect and asking for money is a lack of respect!!! besides if i ever asked a girl that i was dating for money or asked her to pay and my mom found out i would be in trouble!!!
2006-08-29 07:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by miataraceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy is asking for money after only a short period of time he must be crazy or desperate either way leave him. BIG NO NO
2006-08-29 07:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋