What do you judge people by? & What makes you feel that another person is better than you?

Question

These are just some examples: clothing style, clothing brand, clothing condition, body, health, education, eye contact, posture, career, smile, religion, the way they treat others, etc... There are many more. I'm sure you can think of what goes through your mind when you see a person.

I try not to make judgments, just observations. People say I'm too nice to everybody and I give them more credit than they deserve. I just can't help thinking that there are explainations for the way people look and behave. Everyone has different backgrounds.

I feel that what makes a person better than me is intelligence. I feel inferior to another person that I think is more intelligent than I am.

Answer 1

When I find myself in a room full of strangers, the first thing naturally is that I check them out. And to be honest I never approach those who have nice athletic figure, beautiful face and are neat. Because I assume that they are way better than me and don't make contacts with people like myself. Not that I am some kind of monster, I'm just shy. And I also think that people who aren't shy and make new contacts easly are better than me.

Answer 2

Ok, when I first walk into a room, I automatically assume that everyone is better than me. I have low self esteem habits - but I can rationalize through them. So after I really start checking people out or talking with some, I am always disappointed because I find out that I'm better than all of them. "better", meaning more intelligent and having interests above and beyond the shallow stuff. By the time I leave the room, I have thought about the others as people who have a common thread that I don't belong in, and i'm sad because I know I'm better than they are and therefore, I'm not going to ever fit in. So, to answer your question, I judge people upon the standard of myself...

Answer 3

Jennifer-I agree with you- I feel inferior when it comes to intelligence-that's the one gift I wish I was blessed with-but since I wasn't I try to analyze everything and try to think logically and of course make observations, find facts and sources to back whatever it is that I'm babbling about-so I feel intelligent-because the smart thing to do when give information is to have sources to back it up-I also read the dictionary-it helps you feel intellectual-the big words you didn't know or were freaked out about at point or another-now you know-and when people use it-you won't look like an idiot saying something oblivious to what they are saying-and they'll think your smart :). I always make observations of people-from the eye contact they give; to their mannerisms; of course the clothes they wear and their verbal actions-and from their I conclude what he/she must* be like-and usually I'm right-I guess sometimes it's my intuition. It doesn't matter where I'm at-or with whom- I can tell right of the bat if/when someone thinks they are superior then me-just by the look they give and their mannerisms-just cause I'm in scrubs-big whoop!!, which I don't give a shiit about cause when I work I look hot and some people even compliment me and ask for my adivce on fashion and looks -which of course I'm flattered by :)-and it's funny cause sometimes* the individual who thinks they are superior to me will walk into where I work (the best damn brand around-Abercrombie and Fitch) -and realize that I'm not a low life bum, but can look like it on my off days -and then they'll lighten up towards me-those fcuks!! I try not to judge others and even make my mind go numb when I see someone-so I won't act like an arrogrant as s, and give them a chance-because I don't like it when others judge me. Although some people in this world are inferior-the sickos who rape; kill; deviants who take pleasure out if it-why would you stoop to their level?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I don't like being judged. Does that mean I don't judge either - well, I used to (involuntairily) but now am consciously training myself not to.

For sure, I have never felt inferior to anyone else. I have felt less accomplished, less skilled, less efficient, but never inferior. I can never come to a conclusion if one is better than I am or vice versa.

For me, its about what one can do better than I and how. Sometimes, I feel nice of the opposite situation as well.

Answer 6

I TRY not to judge others but sometimes I have to catch myself. I don't feel that anyone is better than me or worse for that matter. I'm happy with the kind of person I am and I make no excuses for that or the way I live my life.

Answer 7

I have talked to thousands of business folks over the years. The haughty type of business person I can't stand to be around.
As far as judging someone, A good friend of ours tried to set our life in order recently. She just didn't have enough information. And some of the information I can understand how she misinterpreted it by having too little information.
Jennifer seems like a humble person. I like humble people.
I ask a bunch of question on here that are goofy because I have 5 kids at home and they are easy to make laugh.
Too nice is good. To wear your heart on your sleeve to the right people is good too.
Inteligence if I even spelled it right too many people is just a form of pride, but I was talking to the head of nuerolgy in Nashville last week, one of our girls, Angelica was having a check up, I ask him how many kids he had and he paused, as if counting them and then replied,
" Around 8000 ".
About 7 years ago Angelica had brain desease and was dieing , and Dr Pina, came up to the hospital about 3am and said he couldn't sleep,
He said he couldn't figure out what was wrong with Angelica, He chatted with me and my brother in the hall for about an hour and my brother mentioned a drug he heard might help Angleica and he said he would look it up and later tried that drug for Angelica from my brothers suggestion.
I suppose Dr Pina may be one of the smartest men I have ever met, Schooled to try to understand the brain and the nervous system
using his knowledge to try help kids.
But it's his heart, not his knowledge, that we hold up on a pedistal.
Angelica's story is on http://www.achildslittleworld.com
Jenifer no one by intelligence should ever make you feel inferior, by my thoughts,
The good book says: Knowledge puffs up, But Love builds up. (Or edifies)
God bless,
John

Answer 8

Well, to tell you the truth, I don't feel inferior to another person just because he SEEMS more intelligent than I am. According to Howard Gardner, there are "multiple intelligences": linguistic, musical, logical-mathematical, spatial, bodily-kinestezic, intrapersonal, interpersonal. Just because he seems better than me in mathematics, that doesn't mean he is better than me in music. Just an example... So my advice for you is not to feel inferior to anybody. You are intelligent in your own field, area.

Answer 9

I try not to judge other people. I try to consider others as better than me. It makes me humble and teaches me to repect others.

Answer 10

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