The thing is, my bf has a lot of Maxim-type pictures on his computer that he changes for the background and whatever. I'm fine with these, but the other day he had this sexy picture of a girl (head and shoulders, but naked and wet) he knows online on his background. He says he got it off her website. I think he also has a few of other girls that aren't all sexy but still in his screensaver slideshow. He told me he hasn't talked to the girl in at least two months (we've been dating/living together for over a year) and we don't have internet at our house so its not like he's chatting with her. He just likes the picture because she's hot. Am I being silly being uncomfortable with this? No matter what I do I can't stop hating the pictures of the girls he knows, but I'm fine with the ones he doesn't.
I'd love to hear what guys think, but girls too - would this bother you?
2006-08-29 06:58:22 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Big deal...the chances of his having a "date " with this girl are nil. It is not a lot different than having a slide show of horses or anything else...harmless diversion at best. Surely you are not that insecure in your relationship. IF you are, you need to step back and take a real look at things. IF you are doubting him now, how can it possibly go any further? You should also ask yourself, "why am I insecure?" Perhaps the things you will find are within you, not him...there is always that chance. In either case, I think you have very little to worry about. Relax, take your computer and put a screen slide show of hunky men on it, scantily clad (if wearing anything) and let it rip. IF he says anything, let him have it. IF he does not, then you know you are being somewhat silly. Good luck
2006-08-29 07:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say yes and no. Yes in a way you are being silly because those were past girls that he doesn't have any contact with at all. I mean its not like they are your next door neighbors or even drop by or anything. And for the no part, is because he really isn't showing you much respect if he has to bring up his past gfs pics on the computer and stuff. I think if you put up pics of old bfs on the computer when he turned it on and had a few of them in your slide show, maybe he would get the picture and hate them too if you say they were hot. For me personally it would kind of bother me, though I'm an open and laid back person, I still don't think I could be cool just letting my bf flash up all the sexy girls from his past like that. I mean wouldn't mind if they were in a box somewhere, but just flashing on the computer isn't that great.
2006-08-29 07:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably older than you, who posted the message, and the reason I know that because we, older women learn how to cope with our BFs, husband's or occasional date's "cyber girls".
When it's bothering you it means you care about him, you mentioned that you are living together, maybe you want him to commit, but he doesn't.
We are way different from guys, they don't understand what hurts us, or they don't care, which is ignorance(not good).
Anyway, one thing you can do if you really love this guy, don't pay attention to those pics, he's just dreaming... maybe there is something in the poses of those girls that make him arrouse or some lengerie they wear, maybe he would like to see you in that. I am not suggesting to do something you believe it's discussing or unacceptable, but if you are wondering what attracts him to those women, ask, he might be able to explain.Ask details.
Another thing, don't nag him or punish him if he doesn't delete them, pretend you ignore them. Sometimes guys keep those pics to brag to other guys about them(stupid?) he gets a higher score if his pics are better? He fits in?
The most important thing for you is to be in love with yourself. If you are questioning your own looks that is affecting your life and everyone in it including your BF.
We live in a society where we are judged by looks, don't be a victim, and if you are extremely good looking, you don't have anything to worry about, you are fine,if are not skinny tall and blonde with blue eyes you are desireable to other guys that prefer your type.
Either way you are a winner.
If it's hard for you to believe in yourself, write down your good qualities and read them out loud every day in the morning,even if it sounds insane it works. We have to make ourselfs believe that we are perfect the way we are!
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 07:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by adel e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that is SO normal....that is exactly what i would be thinking right now too....your boy friend shouldn't be looking at half naked girls that he knows if he's with you...that is really wrong...and if he continues to do it you should SO tell him and if he doesn't then break up with him....he's just showing that he doesn't just like you....its hard to explain but I know how you're feeling....no offence but he's a jerk!
2006-08-29 07:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by ASKaway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it would bother me. Why does he need pictures of girls, on his computer or anywhere else, when he's in a relationship with you?
No way, no how for this sister.
2006-08-29 07:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by ceekryt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes perfect sense. I think you have the right to tell him and she shouldnt have a problem with changing the backround. Why aren't your sexy pictures on there?
2006-08-29 07:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Steven B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer see the way it is slutty, yet I additionally don't comprehend why women make dumb faces in pictures so often. That and pictures of them in Vegas captioned "VEGAS toddler!". i think of girls attempt waaaaay too perplexing to look like they are relaxing human beings of their pictures, and it makes them look greater like interest seekers. I propose often times is advantageous, yet each and all the rattling time. adult men take issues a pair of hundred situations much less heavily than women. women overreact to each little thing. women often look like they are forcing relaxing, no longer having relaxing of course.
2016-10-01 01:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by hamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would bother me. men who contsatnly look at those pictures are shallow and think of women as sex objects (from what i've seen) all men are going to check girls out and find them attractive, but those who seek after it are too superficial for my liking
2006-08-29 07:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur just being silly ......
sure ur jealous and all but yeah it's normal for guys to have pics of cute girls or in ur case sexy girls
2006-08-29 07:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by LazyForLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him take them off the computer or w.e, if thats how its gonan be then you should put u naked pictures of guys everywhere to see how he likes it!! that is sooo disrespectful make him take them away or leave him if he wont, he shoodnt need to get pleasure from ANYONE else ANYWHERE besides YOU!!...if t
2006-08-29 07:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋