I AM 21, I HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS GUY HE SAID HE WAS 20 BUT I FOUND OUT RECENTLY HE WAS 17 . I WOULD HAVE NEVER GUSSED . I NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO
2006-08-29 06:54:14 · 24 answers · asked by cynthia0767 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he works and has graduated . he is a good guy and i like him but its weired , i feel like i am robbing the cradel
2006-08-29 07:06:09 · update #1
if you are happy then so be it age is just a number
2006-08-29 06:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by poporjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that big of an age difference, but I would feel deceived and angry that he lied in the first place. The ball is really in your court. If you can forgive him for lying and can deal with being with a 17 year old, then by all means do that. But if his lying means you will not be able to trust him anymore and if you feel he is too young for you, by all means end the relationship. It also depends how strong your feelings were for him. If you were starting to develop feelings, I would probably avoid him for a while just to show him that lying to you will not be tolerated. I would also discuss this with him just so he understands that you do mean business.
2006-08-29 07:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
u have two options open to u.
the first is u can continue in the relationship if u really love him.in that case u just pretend that he is of the age u thot he wasOR
u tell him that u cant continue with the relationship cos u were actully deceived in the first place int o blivin that he was of a particul;ar age.
u can still keep him as a mere friend bt nt a soul partner cos the love will b lackin
2006-08-29 07:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one cause you could end up in jail! But if you really like him you need to find out when he turns 18 and keep things calm and quit until then, if you want a relationship.
Or you could just get the he** out of it before you go to jail.
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 06:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by taytayjomar89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mature one, here. He's only 17. You have some more life experience than he does, and think somewhat differently that he does. I would break it off gently. Find people around your age who have more in common with you.
2006-08-29 07:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would find out why he lied in the first place. And can't you get arrested for dating someone sunder the age of 18??? I don't know that is just what i heard. But then just sit and talk with him, find out what else he has lied about. But that is just me.
2006-08-29 07:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Shortie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not that large of a age gap, but theres a maturity factor
how off is he from being 18? (and legal)
and you are talkin past tense, so i wouldnt do anything.. i would be shocked.. but i would move on.
are you still in a "relationship" or longin to be with him?
2006-08-29 06:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by Diamonds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It may not seem like a big difference, but he's so immature right now. Especially since boys mature e-x-t-r-e-m-e-l-y slow (do they ever?!) Plus, if he's lying to you about his age, what else is he lying to you about.
2006-08-29 06:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loads of people say that you can get in jail for it, but in fact, age doesn't matter. talk to him about it and find out the reason of his lie.
2006-08-29 06:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kanade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stay with him but don't have sex or anything till he is 18. i would recemend you finding a guy who doesnt lie but if you really like him then go ahead
2006-08-29 06:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the country.
2006-08-29 06:57:43 · answer #11 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋