It seems many ladies (NOT ALL!!!) on here (and certainly some I know) have a preconceived check list of what their man should be, height, weight, c*ck size, hair colour, eye colour, car, job, and the list goes on.... it seems as if they can't tick the boxes, they are not interested, setting themselves up for failure every time.
It seems that men's expectations are far more realistic.
Or am I just getting this wrong?
2006-08-29 06:52:56 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Racquel W... I was wondering if it was the younger early 20-somethings....
2006-08-29 06:56:39 · update #1
Penguin... so therefore you would discount the perfect man because he was a little shorter than you.... do you see what I mean here people?
2006-08-29 06:58:04 · update #2
I know what you mean, and I think it is just the younger ones... I try not to have any preconceived ideas, that way, I'm always pleasantly surprised!
But I think we all have checklists to a certain degree, it just depends on how the tick boxes are titled...
I'm not perfect myself, so I would never seek perfection in others....
2006-08-29 07:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although the examples you give are not the ones on my check list. I must admit I too have a list that has evolved over the years. Although when I was younger my list included hair and eye color, today it includes having simillar personal objectives/priorities and enjoying each other's company. It was a learning experience.
Over time, I was flexible on one or another point and found that the things that weren't important quickly dropped off and those that are left are much more relevant for me. Still limiting I suppose, but as you get to my age and you're still wondering if you want to have kids you don't really want to spend 2 years trying to figure out if he's the right one - especially if he doesn't meet your "educated evaluation" criteria.
So, do we have unrealistic expectations - well, maybe - but hopefully we all learn from our experiences both good ones and bad.
2006-08-29 07:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by f1addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllllllll I know what you mean. But I think that women need to have HIGH expectations, and if they search for a while they won't be disappointed, there are a lot of great men out there.
Unrealistic? Maybe, but so are some men...(I was thinking of the 50 something male with a paunch who thinks he should be with a sweet twenty something girl...)
I guess us women read a lot of fairy stories when we are growing up......and we'd all like to meet a Prince.....
I think when the chemistry is right we can forgive a lot!!!
Good question!
2006-08-29 07:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right...my girlfriend and I have had a discussion similar to this. She is single and has been for quite some time. I tell her its because she has a preconceived notion of her "perfect" mate and unless she is willing to bend a little then she will never have anyone. I'm not saying you should lower your standards by any means, but really....you aren't perfect so you can't expect your man to be either.
2006-08-29 06:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men's list are just as stupid. I for one do not have an unrealistic idea of what a real man should be like. I just want a good man. Some men are crazy when it comes to women: She have to have this much thighs, or pretty green eyes, a huge booty and she must be mixed, white, black, whatever and she must cook three square meals a day, no job, clean my drawers, etc. Men can be just as stupid too.
2006-08-29 06:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I HAD a preconceived notion of what I wanted in a mate - tall and dark (tanned or non caucasion), however, I fell head over heels with a blonde guy who's shorter than I am - and we're now happily married with two kids, 18 years on.
2006-08-29 07:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion men think of sex as the most important aspect of a women they could care less about all the things that are important. women dont have unrealistic thoughts on what they want however women look toward the future and men are more in the now.what they want now not if their spouse has a job or will have. And so on......
2006-08-29 06:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you are young teenager, or young women, yes many do have to high of a expectations, and what you say about the check list, i wouldn"t be surpised either, but as life goes on,and you realize that males, are just human too lol.
2006-08-29 06:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most women go through that stage, and only after they have gotten burned several times, do they realize what is really important in a man. It is important that he loves you.(obviously). It is important that he cares abut you, is there for you, understands you, TRUSTS you, and relies on you. It is important that you do all those things back. If a man cares about you.. he will keep a job, he will try his best to take care of you. After you have tried over and over to please someone who is everything you thought you wanted, and they betray you, you realize that you really didn't know what you were looking for in the first place. beauty is in the heart, and that is the only place you will ever find it.
2006-08-29 07:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm young, didn't really have unrealistic expectations, the only 2 that are a tad on the shallow side , is that he's gotta be taller than me in heels, and that he's good looking.
having a nice butt is not a requirement... just a perk!
the others are completely realisitc - HEALTHY, not a liar, not a bum, not cheap, not mean, not a combative freak, smart, and funny.
and i came across someone 2 years ago who meets my requirements (and things i didn't knwo i wanted)
2006-08-29 07:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by veeta675 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋