actually my bf brokeup with me and i'm now having a marriage proposal from an old friend
i really like the one who proposed and i'm thinking about it seriously but something inside me wants my boyfriend to come back to give myself the chance to say no and hurt him because dumped me for no reason at all
sometimes i feel this is so wicked?
do you think i am a bad girl because i am thinking about revenge?
actually he dumped me for a play girl who moved to live with him
don't misunderstand me i like my new bf
2006-08-29 06:51:53 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend broke up with you for another,and of course this was very painful to you,and your not a wicked person to want him to feel what you felt when he left.However,you stated that you are considering marriage now,and i hope it is for the right reasons,not out of rebound.I would maybe have a little bit of a longer engagement just to see if that is truly what you want to do.No one should ever enter into a marriage lightly,but very seriously with a whole heart of commitment.As far as your old boyfriend,if he left you once for someone,he would do it again,so you don't need that kind of mess in your life to deal with.Even if it comes down to not being your new guy,you deserve happiness and true love.That Mr.Right is out there,just be patient,"good things come to those that are patient" I wouldn't react at all to him,if you do,he will know that it was really upsetting to you and then you would feel even more worst.I hope this all made some sense to you and i wish you the best in all you do,take care and good luck!
2006-08-29 07:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on! If he dumped you because he was seeing someone else, he actually did you a favor. Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking hes worth fighting for. If you try the revenge thing it will blow up in your face and this other guy that you like, will think you're using him. Give it up and move on quietly with a BIG SMILE and that will let him know that he wasn't all that and a cup of TEA. Enjoy your new boyfriend and maybe the two of you will have a wonderful life together.
2006-08-29 07:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by sammie-john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you have feelings of wanting revenge is normal. Its one of the stages you go through after a breakup that hurt you a lot. It's better than being sad though, because when you are angry it means you realize that he did something wrong and that you deserve better.
I dont think you are wicked. I think its very normal to feel angry, but it also shows that you arent over that situation yet. Just take your time with your new guy and make sure he's better than the last one!
2006-08-29 06:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you just want to get revenge from your ex breaking up with you and marriage will not solve this. Hate to say it but I don't think you are ready to be married to someone else, you haven't gotten over your ex, so how can you fall for someone else so soon. You just need some company due that your relationship has been broken. No not that you are a bad girl but revenge is what you are trying to get and marriage isn't the problemsolver.
2006-08-29 06:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your wicked ;) It's normal to want revenge! The guy is a loser. A playgirl? c'mon! He is shallow and doesn't appreciate your worth to pick a floosy over you. It's insulting and I would want to frame him for a crime!
Don't use your new bf as rebound tho (just in case you are). Poor guy who truly loves you doesn't deseve to be used. Don't accept the marriage proposal if you think you may still like Mr. Jerko.
2006-08-29 07:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say wicked...confused is more like it. It's almost as if you are still in love with the old boyfriend. Not exactly fair to the new guy.
Before you marry, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and not to spite the other guy...because if you don't, then, yes, it would be wicked.
2006-08-29 06:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are no more wicked than anyone else who has thought those thoughts and felt those feelings. they are just feelings and it is what you do with them that makes you wicked. Have you hurt any one? just calm down and the feelings of hurt will eventually turn into feelings of relief. In a lot of ways you are grieving. A loss is a loss. whether it is by death or some one leaves you on purpose. Hang in there and be strong.
2006-08-29 06:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by memorris900 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to want revenge especially when someone you care about are love hurts you, you are not wicked. Just remember that two wrongs dont make a right
2006-08-29 06:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't accept a marriage proposal if you're not in love with the one proposing...it might seem wicked and a good way to get revenge but what if it backfires
2006-08-29 06:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wicked but I do think that you need to take time and really think about want you want. Marriage is not something that you can forget about when you decide that you no longer want that man. Please just take some time before rushing into anything. Good-luck
2006-08-29 06:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by queenbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋