how do you pluck up courage to go out single again any tips?
2006-08-29 06:49:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, this question gets asked a lot, and there's a reason for this - it happens a lot. And it hurts. And people deserve some sympathy and some tips when they are feeling down.
I would say that it is very difficult to get your confidence back. Of course it depends on how much you loved the person, how it broke up, how long you were with them, and to a certain extent on your age, and your personality. But I think it always hurts for a while.
First thing I would do is talk about it. In confidence to a counsellor if you like, or to all your family and friends and the man on the Clapham Omnibus if that helps. Write about it. Cry about it. For 7 days.
From then and until you go out as a single person and meet someone new, do everything you can to build your self esteem. Look after yourself well. Give yourself treats. Get really fit. Maybe do some retail therapy.
Write ten affirmations (positive things you like about yourself and things you want to achieve) Say them every day.
Maybe a new interest - helps meet new people.
Take a deep breath and GO FOR IT!
Wishing you good luck.
2006-08-29 06:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Suzita 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Confidence is a form of courage. Take some alone time to decide what went wrong. There are never easy answers to these questions, but if you really want a serious committed relationship you need to ask yourself this. And don't cop out to "well he/she was a jerk" stuff. Find out what YOU really want in a relationship, and go look for that in your next one. And just picking the next pretty face isn't it!! Attraction IS important but pretty isn't. You have to look deeper than what my friends will think of this person. You have to REALLY enjoy spending time alone with this person. Because once the shine has worn off you have to LIKE just being with this person.
Once you have started figuring out who you are and who you are looking for your confidence and courage will return. Because you're not searching blindly. And now the hardest part, be glad you know now they aren't right for you.
And that you didn't settle for less than the perfect person for you!!
2006-08-29 14:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by silverthorshammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with friends as a group. This will take away the stress of dwelling on the person you broke up with and save you self pity of being alone. Try to make it a night out with friends of the same sex or sexual preference. This will get you involved in a little competition like when you were teenagers at a school dance. Being around friends can give you self esteem and confidence. The rest is all up to you. Hope this helps as it always helped me.
2006-08-29 13:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by almighty_dave197 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an easy thing to do, I know from personal experience but, if you want to be with someone, then you need to just get yourself out there again. There will always disappointments but know that you are worth it as a person and there are some miserable people out there, so just ignore them.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 17:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, fish my friend, are you a man or woman?
If you're a woman, buy a sexy new push up bra and delicious thong.
If your'e a man, go to the strip club, where every man can be made to feel special (with the right amount of dollar bills.)
2006-08-29 13:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls night out. Ladies night at your favorite bar/ club with a group of friends or even just one good friend. Even if you don't meet anyone its a blast dogging out guys with lame pick up lines and debating witch one of the guys at the bar has the cutest @ss.
2006-08-29 17:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by dropkickchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word: "Shopping!!!"....make yourself look even better after the break up so then he can regret what he lost....buy some new clothes...get a new hair cut or color...go to the spa and get the whole treatment and then make sure he sees you like that...I'm pretty sure he'll feel so stupid of letting you go...
2006-08-29 13:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by lilsweetone619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way to get your confidence and courage back is to stay friends with your ex and go out to the pub.start small then work your way up to the clubs.
2006-08-29 14:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by DOMINIQUE M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your hair done, a new outfit and go out with your best friend to a really good club/pub/bar and live it up.
2006-08-29 13:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not lose your esteem or self confidence because of ANYONE! You are still you, and will find someone more attracted to you, and probably will be better off for it! :)
2006-08-29 13:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋