Okay..my bf is always busy. He tells me he loves me, and promsies me he will never leave, or do anything to jeopardize our relationship. But I have this gut feeling he's cheating on me. Especially since he hugged another girl (in front of me). He claims he has known her for 5 years and that she is just a friend. She is on his bowling team...but could there friendship be or become more? Advice please!!!
2006-08-29 06:48:54 · 28 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust your heart.....
If he says or does somthing that alarms you. it is almost always best to determine the facts, and then go with your heart!!!
Huggs and Kisses,,,
Lonnie
2006-08-29 06:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right this question has been asked like a hundred times before, obviously it's a problem that people are facing time and time again...sorry to say but if you continue to accuse your boyfriend of being unfaithful just because he hugs another girl, you could drive him into the arms of that same girl...you should be happy within yourself, a strong, confident woman who knows herself and knows her man, but instead you sound really insecure, and it's your insecurities that could jeopardize your relationship, i suggest you work on your self esteem and your confidence, you have no real proof he has done anything, or is going too, don't create a problem, when there was none in the first place, you could end up regretting it.
2006-08-29 14:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he isn't cheating, he is playing games by leaving room for questions. It was just plain rude to hug the other girl in front of you. Did he introduce the two of you? Probably not, either way my gut instinct was right last year about a similar situation and I must tell you, it is not a good feeling but you must go with it. He's not helping any by always being busy...
2006-08-29 13:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and really want to be with him look at all the good between you two. I know you may feel he's cheating but really you can't say until he's act on it, you make think you know or feel he's cheating but if he's cheating it will come to you, in such a way that you want have to wonder (regardless if he speaks on it or not) it will show. As far as this other women don't trip I know how you felt and yea I'm sure it kind of hurt you but you have to move on don't base what you both have on a hug I'm sure you have hug guys a time or too. after all u and him are not married you and him are just dating keep that in mind. I love my man a lot and we have been together have fun and do all type of things together but i haven't meet his son so just think of how i feel, I get mad at him about it but I can surround what we have around that. So i just be a real lady and over look it. It's big but at the same time it's little. E-mail me back if you want to talk i ll help you cause i know how it feels to wonder about someone you love a lot and really want to be with that person and not sure if its right. E_MAIL Me
2006-08-29 14:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there always has to be trust in a relationship or there is nothing at all....so if your gut feeling is telling you something then you should listen and go with your heart because usually you are right...but then again you can be so inecure that you think he is cheating on you so again that goes to trust....a hug is nothing when you see something like kissing or taking another girl out on a date then leave him...good luck....
2006-08-29 13:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its honestly hard to tell... the looks of it seem like you are freaking out just a bit too much... whats wrong with having a friend that is a girl. or hugging a girl. or having that girl be on his bowling team. by always busy... do you mean he only sees you 2 times a week..?
i wouldnt think hes cheating on you from what was said though...
2006-08-29 13:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by XitachiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you go to watch him bowl you can see what he or they do and if you go any way he is always busy and what else does he do like hugs are okay but if he does it all the time well im sorry he isnt great for you but you need to go with you gut and you heart do you think he will hert your heart or be with you for the rest of your life
2006-08-29 13:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, what do you mean that he is always busy? Do you go to his games with him? It seems to me that you have trust issues. If you can't trust who u are with then, no since in being with them. My fiance and I both have friends of the opposite sex. We hug them all the time and we talk all the time.. Just because he hugs his friend doesn't mean he is cheating, if however he ignores you when she is around, then I would consider tht to be a problem.
2006-08-29 13:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be naive. A man that loves you will make that time for...it is that SIMPLE. Anything that means enough to you ...you make the time for. Don't bothered with child games. He talks a nice game but doesn't walk the walk. Have some respect. Tell him words mean nothing and that he needs to make more time for u if he doesn't then you know it is time to move on. If you have a gut feeling it is probably true.
2006-08-29 13:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.... Your one of those girls that jump to conclusions arent ya...?? Ok... First off... if he said that she is just a friend... then she is probably just a friend. TRUST HIM unless he gives you a reason not to trust him, or if he has cheated on girls in the past, because ONCE a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.... Almost all of my friends are guys, and they would dump any girl that started freaking out about our friendship. So be careful, you might be pushing him away if you freak out on him.
2006-08-29 13:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is cheating on you that much, confront him. Trust is a part of love. If you love him, trust him. Stand by your man! Last time I checked hugging another girl wasn't exactly against the rules...
2006-08-29 13:52:56 · answer #11 · answered by krista2018tar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋