Okay this isn't so much of a question as it is a plea for advice based on experience. My last serious relationship ended a year and a half ago and I put up an emotional block up until recently. I met someone who played my heart strings like a yoyo and the experience has left me emotionally torn apart and lost. She is out of the equation now with no chance for any rekindling. I need help or someone to talk to about how I can move through this emotional storm.
Please no rediculous childish answers, I've had enough of that recently.
I have yahoo so feel free to contact me there if you think you could be good to talk to.
2006-08-29 06:42:33 · 4 answers · asked by meta4icks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the feeling that you tend to idealize the woman you're interested in, to the point that you have no boundaries. Perhaps you have a desire to please the other person, regardless as to the impact on your life or emotions. Then, when things go awry, you put up an "emotional block." Nothing is ever entirely the other person's fault; you need to look at how you may have contributed to the failure of the relationship, then consider what you might do differently in the future.
Try not to become too quickly entwined with the next woman you date; take it very slow so that you have time to get to know her (as she is), and monitor your own emotions as time goes on. Not everyone is serious relationship material.
2006-08-29 06:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing dude. I have a few ways that have helped me.
1. Time. Over time your emotions will settle and what remains is your desire to love again.
2. Another girl. The best way to get over a women is to get on top of another. Go out meet woman, ask friends to hook you up. Investment and or time with another lady will give you an outlet without having to be too serious.
3. Pick up a hobby. While all fulfulling the first two on the list you need to start creating new memeories without this other person. Things like learning another language, taking a class or join some club will allow you to meet new people and learn something new.
This all helped me and I am happy to say I am so over her dude.
2006-08-29 06:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. I know how you feel. You've just got to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try it all over again. This may be one of those relationships that you never really get over, but you can do your best to move on. It's hard to let your heart open again to something new, but I am sure you will be just fine.
2006-08-29 06:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by carolinayaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look young in the photo so you probably have lots of opportunities to find someone else, i suggest looking for someone completely different from the one who left you like that, you'll learn to appreciate other qualities in people and broaden your heart
2006-08-29 06:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋