My girlfriend at the moment is a virgin and I was, and still am for the most part, fine with that. She never "services" me in any way, shape or form whereas I do everything for her. I've asked her about it and she's told me "...to be patient." Well, my patience is beginning to wear out and I am contemplating looking for some action elsewhere. Does that make me shallow or just human. We've been dating for about 2 months now and I could handle the celebacy if I was getting what I needed because I know she's getting what she needs.
2006-08-29 06:35:37 · 23 answers · asked by sandberg42 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't shallow because you have been servicing her and you aren't receiving the service. I am a female and I hate to say this but maybe she isn't going to give in too early for you. We are all human and you should let her know that. Don't be cruel about it, just be real and let her know that you are "sexually frustrated". The only thing you can do if she says No, is to respect her decision and either move on or stay put in that situation.
2006-08-29 06:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice: Tell her exactly what you wrote here.
You have needs too (you're not shallow, just human), and you need to let her know that. Its not fair of her to recieve all the attention in the physical area, and not return the favor. She may think she's teasing you, but really all she is doing is fueling her insecurity by making sure you stick around. I'm sure you guys have a good relationship mentally and emotionally, but sexual chemistry is important too, and you should let her know.
She may also be afraid of you trying to go farther than she is willing to go, so reassure her that you aren't trying to take her virginity, but you would like some physical "excitement" as well.
Plus, you are a MAN and you need these things....does she know that?
Okay okay...so "in conclusion" I'm sure your girlfriend isn't deliberately trying to "deprive" you of anything, but she still is, so its up to you to let her know that by being honest about what you feel.
This is serious talk-about-your-feelings sort of stuff so she will most likely feel good about being the special lady that gets to hear what you need right now, which is her.
Good luck, hope this helps. =)
2006-08-29 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hiroko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months really isnt a long time think about it this way if she decides to have sex with you she'll be giving you something she can never get back. Let her take her time and whatever you do use protection! Be patient if you really care about her if not dont use her and just break her heart move on.
2006-08-29 13:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u just need give her some more time. A lot of girls dont like to jump into anything like that, but i am sure if u give her enough time that everything will be worth while!!! Maybe she doesnt know what to do either and maybe u need to reassure here that everything will be ok and if she doesnt know what she is doing that no matter what it will be ok. She just doesnt know how to react and she is scared taht u will be mad at her if she screws up :) GOODLUCK
2006-08-29 13:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by ME :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a deadline.
Either put out or it's over.
Remember:
1. Bang her by the 3rd date
2. Leave her
3. Move on to the next chick
4. Get in her panties
5. Repeat steps 1 - 4
2006-08-29 13:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just exactly what do you mean by doing for her? and have you tried telling her honestly and openly about how you feel as well as truly listening to what she really wants and needs? Honesty and communication are the keys to a satisfying relationship on all levels.
2006-08-29 13:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by S G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A combination of the two
It's completely human to feel that way about your g/f and it's great that she's not letting you drag her into bed. However, it IS shallow to leave her just because she won't allow that
2006-08-29 13:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ayumi 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's nervous, I would talk to her about it. If she says 'be patient' again, tell her she can 'be patient' too. Its not fair you do things to her and he doesn't return the favor in any way. I would definatly TALK about it and see why nothing is going on. Try to make her comfortable about it and if she is nervous, let her know about your likes and dislikes and things should get better. Good luck
2006-08-29 13:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel, and if she still wants to wait then you might have to go elsewhere, its not shallow its called human nature, when your not getting what you need from the other person then you tend to look for it elsewhere
2006-08-29 13:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not know how to do it.. it may be her first time please a guy ... some girls get nervous about the whole thing... be patient.. give it about another month and see what happens before you g o looking else where
2006-08-29 13:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by preaciousbutton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋