I am into bdsm and my girlfriend is into vanilla how is the best way to get her to try the wild side?

Answer 1

why do bdsm people call it vanilla. my bestfriend is into bdsm and she always refers to me as her nilla friend. U can have an interesting and meaningful sex life without beating each other. If you want her to be a lil more open try role playing to loosen her up. maybe a lil tame spanking, rough touching will make you happy without pushing her limits. and talk to her about it, if she feels she cannot be involved in that and you feel you need it to enjoy sex then you may want to move on. good luck.

Answer 2

The absolutely first thing is to have an open conversation about each others needs. It would be useful to know if she is vanilla for a reason. Perhaps she hasn't been exposed to BDSM in a positive light. Perhaps she is turned off by the whole thing. Perhaps she's never really thought about it before.

In any case, you should find out from her what she might like to do, what she would be willing to do (even if it's just for your benefit), and what she will refuse to do. Obviously it will be a vague list subject to future revision, but it's a start. I agree with another answerer in that you start slowly, working first from her possible likes.

Knowing which role you are wanting would be useful, but I'll give a general example. Suppose that you are wanting to put her into bondage, and she is willing to not immediately rule it out. The way to build up to it would be to first use "mental" bondage, where she simply clasps her hands together. Then if that goes well, try using like a piece of thread, which would hold her wrists together but can be broken with sufficient force. If that goes well, then you can go for more restraining items.

In other words, ease into it. However, never forget that she is adamantly opposed, then you need to respect her wishes. I wish the two of you good luck. (One of you might need it!)

Answer 3

Start mild and build up to different levels. Tie her down and just tickle and perform oral. Then next time blind fold and step it up a bit, maybe ice cubes, and something like a pencil on the feet. Just be sensual and take it slow until she starts liking it. she has to discover what she likes. After each time have a talk and discuss what she liked and didn't like. But don't be upset if you do something she did not like, just try something different next time.

Let her tie you down and do what she wants, if you are already into it she can't go wrong.

Answer 4

gang bang

Answer 5

role-playing...