My 8 month old daughter still sleeps in our bed?

Question

We try to put her in her crib in her room but she wakes up at least every hour crying......when she is in our bed she sleeps through the night..... she seems to have a need to feel someone next to her.

I want her to sleep well but I think the longer we allow her to sleep in with us the harder this will be on her in the long run.

any suggestions?

Answer 1

Honey, our son slept with us until he was over 3 years old. It's a security thing, they need to know your there. We finally got him to sleeping in his own bed, which was in the same room as ours, by letting him go to sleep in our bed and then putting him in his, this let him know he was safe enough to sleep by hisself. Sometimes we would have to get up with him several times through the night and put him back in his own bed, tho. We've also on many occasions asked him if he wanted to sleep in his bed tonight and on the nights he's said yes, we would put a movie on and let him watch it until he nodded off on his own.
Your little one, however may be too little to try this with. She just may not be ready yet. With her being that little, I would try letting her go to sleep with you and then placing her in her own bed later, but you may have to do this several times a night. Best to be patient and persistent and it just might pay off.

Answer 2

I had the same problem with my daughter and we tried the cry it out method. Put her down in her crib awake, she will probably cry. Leave the room and come back in 15 to 20 minutes, make sure she is okay and tell her you love her. Keep doing this until she falls asleep. Repeat this everytime she wakes up in the middle of the night. This method is very hard and might take a few nights but be assured that it won't last long and it's best for you and baby. We did this and now our daughter is a great sleeper and slepps 10 to12 hours a night in her own bed!

Answer 3

My Daughter is 8 months also she is still sleeping some night with me but she can do either she can sleep in her crib or with me. start by having her naps in the crib to get her used to that then you can start her in your bed when she falls asleep put her in the crib for the rest of the night.
Don't push her too much she is in a stage right now where it is hard. I had my first daughter sleep with me and she is now 5 and i have never had a problem getting her in her own room, Just start slow and get her used to the idea

Answer 4

You can't spoil a baby- they need what they need and are not manipulating you by crying or fussing. At this age, they are learning that mommy and daddy will be there when she needs you- that is important! It doesn't seem like you are having any problems with things the way they are now. She is sleeping through the night! Keep her in with you. It reduces the risk of SIDS, you both sleep and bond better,

We have our 5 month old in bed with us, with his crib attached lie a sidecar. He still spends most of his time in our bed, but he sleeps really well and it allows us all to get more sleep. I expect that at some point we will gradually more the crib away, keeping it in our room, and then eventually moving it into the other room... but for the forseable future (at least a year or so) we are happy to have him in with us.

Besides, won't you miss the morning smile you get when she wakes up and sees you there? I love the shared bed. Trust me, you won't have a 13 year old daughter sharing your bed... she'll move out when her confidence and trust is built up and she's ready. Here's a great article called "Real Men Sleep with their Babies" http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/sleep/real-men-sleep.html

Answer 5

It's all about what makes you comfortable. My daughter-in-law had all three of her children in bed with her from the get-go. She felt that it was best for her babies to be by her always in the infant stages. No pacifiers - no bottles.

I thought as you, about how hard it might be to get them to go in their own beds eventually.

No problem though - it all work out just fine. And, I might add, they all seem very well adjusted.

The two little girls sleep in their own rooms and like it. Although, they sometimes sneak into each others room and giggle and snuggle. The new baby boy is eight months old now and is with his mom at night.

You need to do what you feel is best for you and your family though.

Answer 6

take it form me put the kid in the crib and u can slowly walk out the room but if she crys don't give in because she will never leave your bed.she will go to sleep .U may have to do this for a week are two but she will learn to stay in her bed and sleep all night.

Answer 7

Parents these days give in way too much to their children. A mom I know, go to a time out when her daughter tells her to... no I am not kidding.

There is a pillow that you can get for your baby if you think she needs someone next to her. My daughter used to do that too... 16 years ago, and I found that you need to buy earplugs and let her cry. You are reinforcing her behavior. She thinks "I cry, mom and dad come running, or I get to sleep with them" Now I'm sure that you like to be intimate, but can't when a child is in the same bed... just not the same. As your daughter grows, so do her needs. When she wants a new toy, are you going to buy it for her when she cries when you won't buy it? You need to think about if you raise her this way, she may become a selfish adult. Everything you do is a ripple in time, they keep getting bigger the further they go out.

Dude, make her sleep in her crib!!

Answer 8

I had to let my son cry it out and it worked, it was so pleasant when he was actually sleeping through the night for like 10 hours in his own bed!

He slept in our bed til 10 months old, it took a toll on our sex life and just added frustration.

I know it is hard to hear your baby cry but do it now before they can talk and he starts screaming "Mommy, come out! Mommy! Mommy! hold you!"

There are a lot of methods look up some on the internet or go to Barnes n Noble and sit down and read a few over coffee.

Answer 9

Not truem, she is at the stage where separation anxiety is at its strongest, and it is very hard for her to sleep alone at this point. Give it a few a more months and she'll be much more receptive to learning to sleep alone.

Also, start slow. Have the crib butt up against your bed for a few weeks (or more), then move it a few feet away, then put it on the other side of the room, then put it in another room.

Consider that in many foreign countries, the children sleep in the parental bed for the first few years, and these cultures are shocked that Westerners force their children to sleep in "cages" in another room.

You are strengthening the parent-child bond by co-sleeping.

Answer 10

Try the crib in your room. And no matter how sleepy you are...leave her in it. Pat her back...sooth her. But don't pick her up. After she sleeps in the crib for a few full nights move the crib back into her own room.

Answer 11

You're going to have to let her cry the first few nights. I know it kills you to hear her cry. But she's only doing it because she know's thats how she'll get you to pick her up and put her in bed with you. Once she realizes that crying isn't doing anything for her, she'll get over it, then eventually stop. It's better to do it now that she's young. We didn't get my son out of our bed till he was almost 4. It's harder when they're older. If she becomes accustom to it while she's this young, she won't be so dependent at night. Don't worry, it will get better.