How should I handle my friend's sister?

Question

I have this friend who has a younger sister who has a temper issue. When she loses her temper, she has constant meltdowns.
My family and I think she has Bipolar disorder. However, she refuses to take any medications for this disorder. Anyhow, she moved out with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. However, sometimes she comes over to my friend's parents house. My friend still lives with her parents. My friend's sister and I had a fight. She started yelling at me and having a meltdown. She did not even apolize for her rude behavior.So, now we are not talking to eachother. But, we used to be friends. But frankly, I'm getting sick and tired of her constant yelling and meltdowns. So, I do not know if we ever can be friends again. Hoowever, I'm friends with her older sister. And, I know I'll see the younger sister at birthday partys or at my friend's parent's house, etc.
My question is what should I do if I do see her again? How should I handle my friend's sister?

Answer 1

to be honest there is not much anyone can do.....she has to realise by herself....thats how my sister is......also im not being rude but its not ur business......or problem.....

Answer 2

When you run into her at gatherings be polite. Ask the basic questions 'how are you" and 'good to see you.'

Just because you and your family thinks she has bipolar, doesn't necessarily mean the person should be on medication. She should be seeing a doctor and the doctor can be the one to advise treatment. Don't let your feelings about what she SHOULD be doing impact how you treat her.

You are a friend to her sister and her, first. Not a doctor/therapist. Offer whatever support you can. Especially for the older sister, as I imagine living in this situation probably isn't always enjoyable.

Answer 3

Regardless of how this person has treated you in the past, the appropriate way to treat anyone is kindly and with empathy. If this person truly has a mental disorder, all the more reason to see her outbursts as a result of the disorder and not as her true personality. I agree with previous answerers that you don't necessarily have to hang around with her, but when circumstances put you into contact, treat her as nice as you can. If you can see that an argument or fight is coming, don't get sucked in. Just say something like, "I think I'll go home now, " and go home.

Answer 4

Well i think since you are mature enough to understand her situation...you have more responsibility over the friendship. I think you shouldn't just ignore her. Just be polite...if you have to talk to her...do it in a very respectful way without touching any issue that you may know is going to be an excuse for her to have a meltdown. I am sure people around you will respect you even more for being a lady and take the situation over!!...Don't let you down. Say hi, how are you doing?...you look good today...or whatever you know may put a smile in her face.

Wish you the best!!!

Answer 5

It's really tough to know people like that. It really is a disorder. Trying to be understanding is one thing but taking it too much is accepting abuse. It's probably good that you're not friends anymore, especially if the other sister understands why. When you see her next, just be polite. If she can't be polite back you have to just accept that you tried and it's not meant to be. Someday she'll get the proper help that she needs. In the meantime, don't beat yourself up just because it finally came to a head. It was bound to at some point as I'll bet it has with other people in her life too.

Answer 6

i do no longer understand what part of society you reside in yet whilst your 'pal' became divorces at 20 and had a new child at 18 then his intentions with your sister are bitter. If he has been seeing her for the previous 3 hundred and sixty 5 days then he needless to say does not admire you, undeniable and easy. tell him the way it makes you experience and heavily, do no longer see the dick, it is not proper in case you have been friends for 10 years, he needless to say does not provide a **** approximately your emotions.

Answer 7

This out of control friend's sister appears to be looking for fights. DO NOT ENGAGE in her attempts to argue with you. No one can resist and totally irrestable person. You need firm boundaries and complete self-control on your part. Be polite and respectful because you respect yourself and not lower yourself to her level. Should she become verbally abuse: look her in the eye and say calmly but firmly "your conduct is unacceptable" then calmly remove yourself from her. As for name-calling, I have used this phrase on a verbally abusive ex-father-inlaw "Ed, your name-calling is a disappointing substitue for feedback - what exactly do you wish to tell me?" That will probably stop them in their tracks. Name-calling is an attempt for them to control and belittle you without any facts (which they probably don't have so they at to resort to using expetitives). As the very wise and former first lady, Ms. Eleanor Roosevelt once said ... no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. If she truly has mental issues, you will never be able to reason . It's like trying to teach a pig to sing ... it's a waste of your time and it annoys the pig. Try to do some reading on dealing with DIFFICULT PEOPLE. Good luck and your question show insight and the ability to learn from your life experiences.

Answer 8

I like Mr. Miyagi's advice: "Best block, no be there!"

There are plenty of opportunities to hang out with your friend that don't involve including her sister. So while there will be a few times where you can't avoid her (bday parties and the like), just keep those as minimal as possible, and "psych up" for those occasions by reminding yourself that she's a little nuts, and if she gets upset, odds are very good it's not *really* your fault.

Answer 9

People with disorders need to handle them on their own otherwise it causes problems in their personal life - like ruining a friendship. If you are primarily friends with the older sister then don't worry about the sister. If you happen to run into her I wouldn't talk to her. She needs to realize she can't go around yelling at people.

Answer 10

I can relate to your friends sister, I have a daughter who is the same way. Go to your local bookstore you will find many publications on different disorders. The books are very helpful, they will teach you how to deal with the moods of individuals with the disorder.

Answer 11

I on a personal note know exactly where your coming from.
I think you should not say a word except maybe hi because if you do you will look like the bad guy. Treat others as they treat you not how you want them to treat you. Because then you get steped on in the end so in other words if she doesnt say hey to you dont say it back and if she starts something tell her to grow up and walk away and if she doesnt stop. tell her how you feel.