This is a long story so excuse me...
I'm caught in quite the pickle... I am dating someone I live in Ohio he lives in Florida and he had asked me sometime ago to move to Florida... (I'm still in college) but I wanted to transfer back to my old school and he knew that so finally I forgot about my own dream and told him I'd move. But now I found out I was readmitted to the school and it made me realize how much I wanted to go back, but now I'm stuck with having to tell him I cant move.... what do I say??? I dont want to hurt him, but I have to do this it's very important to me... and the school is much closer to Fl its in GA. I'm also starting to feel like I want to be single is this normal?? We did get into a relationship really soon to us meeting and only 6 mos. after my last 3 yr. relationship. He also wants to live with me and I dont think thats a good idea.
Please Help!!!
Thanks
2006-08-29 05:18:14 · 16 answers · asked by Capricorn82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
School first.
There will be plenty of time to deal with "the rest of your life".
If your guy doesn't understand that, then he's being selfish.
You can't always have what you want when you want it.
I also think it's perfectly normal for you to feel the need to be single. Especially since so much of your life is changing right now, and he's pressuring you to become more attached to him.You should probably go with that instinct to be single.
Be honest with your guy, and tell him exactly how this will go down. Don't fudge over it because you're afraid that you will hurt his feelings. You'll both hurt more if you sacrifice your life, and live with him if these are not the decisions you know you want to make.
Good luck
2006-08-29 05:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you. If he truly cares for you, then he will understand just how important finishing school is and staying where you are for now.
Being single is fine. I kind of feel that I just do not want to deal with people anymore. It is a crazy, mixed up world filled with nuts.
If this is just an internet fling, I don't know if you two have really met face to face yet? I think you need to get to know each other more than 6 months before living together already. It sounds like you really don't know each other through and through. Don't rock the boat...whatever is working for you now, stick with it. With school and everything else you do not want to complicate matters further by adding a "stranger" or wild-card.
2006-08-29 12:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by HC110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him all you said here. He needs to know what you're thinking about this situation. Uh if he wants to move in with you already then he's moving too fast. He needs to slow down a bit. But yeah tell him everything you said here, be nice about it and say things like you don't want to jeopardize anything between you two, but if you do want to be single then be straight with him. Be honest.
2006-08-29 12:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School has to be the most important thing in your life, it will make you who you are in the future. Relationships come and they go, but your education will only wait for you so long.
2006-08-29 12:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him... tell him right now you just want to focus on school... and you feel the relationship may suffer if you do not go back...
2006-08-29 12:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by *Me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for your education, much more important, lot's of nice fish in the sea, stay single and loving it!
2006-08-29 12:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel is best for u. talk to him and explain whats happened. tell him u feel that things moved to fast and need some space. if he truly loves u then he will understand
2006-08-29 12:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him you need to finish your education first. He should understand unless he is so rich that he can support both of you.
2006-08-29 12:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a lot of uncertainties, and you certainly do not want to move for someone, or move in with someone with all of those uncertainties.
2006-08-29 12:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u come 1st, u already decided what ur gonna do so just call him up and say change of plans and then let him know what it is... he'll be okay...
2006-08-29 12:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋