What do I say to my 9 year old who saw me smoking? I have been hiding it for a year now and she caught me.?

Answer 1

I would start with her. What were her emotions? Has she asked any questions? Had you told her that you didn't smoke previously? If she has been lied to, at nine years old she might have a hard time trusting you. I would say only deal with the issues as they present them selves, in honesty. Honesty is a very huge part of relationships. She needs to know she can trust you and that her mommy smoking isn't the end of the world. Smoking is a choice that adults (18 or older) are permitted to make as they desire. One day she will have the same freedom what you say now may help her in making her own choices about the matter later in life.
Don't be so down though! My father-in-law smokes and I adore him. His children have never thought the worse of him for it. The only concern they would have is for his health.
hope things go well!

Answer 2

Tell her that smoking is very addicting and can be hard to stop. Explain to her, that it would be like her trying to never have her favorite food ever again. Explain to her the health risks and to never start smoking herself. I commend you for not smoking around her. It makes me sick how parents expose their children to second hand smoke with no regards to their children's health. Their kids smell, their hair smells, their clothes smell and their house smells. I hate it when my kid goes to stay at a friend's house and she comes home smelling like smoke. You smoking right in front of her, wouldn't make things any better. At this age, I'm sure she has heard about the damage to your health that smoking can cause, and she is probably scared that you are going to get cancer and die.
Try to quit. If you have only been hiding it for a year, my question is, did you just start smoking a year ago? Why as an adult would you start smoking?

Answer 3

First quit smoking. Then talk with your daughter and ask her to help you quit by doing some kind of fun distracting activity with her when you feel the urge to smoke.

Come clean, but in a simple way. She's old enough to have begun to figure out that you aren't super human - but now more than ever you need to show her that even if it's hard you really do believe in doing what is best for you.

Let her know that her love and support mean the world to you - then don't let her down.

Answer 4

Explain to her that you don't want her to smoke, and that if it were easy to quit, you would. She may not be old enough to understand addiction, but she will be old enough to know that it's a bad choice that you made and you can explain how hard the struggle to quit is, and what it feels like when you go without one. If she knows about the withdrawal feelings, she may understand that it's not worth it to start in the first place. Smoking sucks you in with the first cigarette, and then makes it very unpleasant to stop.

Answer 5

My son came home when he was 7 and told me I WAS ON DRUGS! Im like WHAT? and it was my cigarettes he was talking about! I had never felt smaller in all my life. Ive smoked now for 15 years and my son is now 15 and we made a deal. I quit smoking and he gives up junk food! Im on my 7th day not smoking!!!!! U cant do anything but explain to them that its wrong and u wish u had never started and explain the highschool pressures and beg them not too! Try making a deal with her. its only been one week for me but I feel awesome already!

Answer 6

Tell her that you know you are wrong and you know that it is un-healthy. You are going to give it up just for her. AND DO IT!! It is very important. My sister has a 9 year old that caught her smoking, then she gave it up. It wasn't hard for her because she kept on thinking about her son.

Answer 7

Be an example to your nine year old and stop smoking. Trust me, I know people and have friends who's parents smoke, they really don't like their parents smoking, and I can't stand being around parents who smoke. It's gross, and you're not only harming yourself, but your daughter. And she's your daughter, so if you really want to do the smart thing and stop, I'm sure she'd be more than willing to help you.

Answer 8

Be honest and upfront with her! Tell her you slipped...and started doing something you knew wasn't good for you and you want her to help you quit! Apologize for hiding it from her. Tell her you know how bad it is for you and you did not want to disappoint her or her to be disappointed in you. Also explain that you never want her to hide things from you...even when she slips. Take responsibility for quitting though be serious about trying and do not make her feel liable for how you are doing. Remember the example you are setting for her and remember it isn't just your life on your own...you have to live for her so, take care of yourself. And give yourself a break too we all slip sometimes at one thing or another...just own up to it and get back on track.

Answer 9

So?When I was little my mother and father smoked since I was born!And I've never thought it's something unusual.Now I don't smoke because when I was little I started to hate the smell.Every kid will start hating that smell so you can even help your daughter.And you are the mother.What if you are smoking?That doesn't mean she HAS TO smoke too!

Answer 10

Tell her that you do not want to her carry on this habit of yours and that you've been trying to hide it becuase you wish you could stop. Teach her everything about smoking, and tell her you're in the process of quitting. Tell her smoking kills.
Do whatever you want to do, becuase in the future, she'll learn it all in health class.