my boy friend always ask me questions and grills me about stuff cause he thinks imma do wat his ex's did to him but.... IM NOT HIS EX'S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-29 04:31:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you have to understand where your boyfriend is coming from. it seems that he has not gotten over what his ex gf did to him. all he needs is your assurance that you will not do what his ex did simply because you are a different person from his ex. it is not easy to overcome mistrust. believe me you're ex finds it difficult to trust you because of what happened in the past.
the best that you could do is to talk to him and tell him that you understand him but he should also learn to trust you. trust is the foundation of any relationship. if things don't work out by talking to him, maybe you could suggest that he seek counseling for the trauma he's been through with his ex so that both of you could move forward with your relationship.
if things still don't work out for both of you, then it's time for you to make the decision whether to continue the relationship or break up with him. be ready for the consequences though.
2006-08-29 04:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has insecurities he can't get over. He can't blame you or take his past experiences of being hurt by other woman into your relationship now. They are your exes for a reason. If there is no trust in a relationship, there shouldn't be one. Trust a big key player. If he can't trust you then he has issues that you can't fix for him. When you invest your heart you also leave it open for heartache. You can't stop it form happening. You should have a serious talk with him and tell him that if he can't trust you, you can't see this relationship going and further. It might hurt but it's what he needs to hear, if he can't accpet this then you need to let him go.
2006-08-29 04:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ro Ro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just cope with it as my boyfriend i do not trust he said he loves me but he does the same as yours he ask me to marry him but that has been over two years ago now he wont get married because he doesnt want to lose any of our ssd he even has his own apt im the person who harrases him about other women and his where abouts i donot want a man who cheats and comes back home we never have intercourse going on 2 yrs he claims he has a problem if i touch him he moves so i cant touch him
2006-08-29 04:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by bingoplayerbig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. It's not a relationship without trust. You deserve better, and better isn't that hard to find.
2006-08-29 04:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple tell him he either shapes up and finds something to help him trust you or you are gonna dump him. Relationships don't work if there is no trust.
2006-08-29 04:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by jaybrdxxx69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new man...one that will trust you and respect you.....sounds like your current guy has issues that you can not resolve
2006-08-29 04:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel there is any trust then break it off if there is no trust you cant live and if he doesnt at least try to trust you then he is worthless
2006-08-29 04:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
split. aint worth it darlin. trust me, i'm the same type of man but i keep my thoughts to my self. but if there is no trust, holla later
2006-08-29 04:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by zooming truman aka cheeseburger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the realtionship..its not gonna get any better..TRUST is everything
2006-08-29 04:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by jaxxie1982 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broke up.
2006-08-29 04:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋