He passed away a few weeks ago and I miss him like hell he never really liked tattoos, but I was thinking about getting his name and his birth and death date do you think that would disrespect his honor if he really wasn't into tattoos. He's never put mine down and always said they were nice tats, he was just never interested in getting them himself.
2006-08-29 04:16:49 · 25 answers · asked by MOVING 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Getting a tattoo is entirely up to the individual. Your brother might not have appreciated tattoos for his own reasons. For you, it sounds more like a symbolic meaning for you to keep his memory and your love for him alive. I would suggest to give it another week to decide. If you still feel strongly about getting the tattoo done then, then go ahead. The reason behind this is that tattoos are permament, and can't be simply erased...which might be the reason behind your wishing to get one in the first place....but still, give yourself some time to let the idea pass through more thought, and also to allow yourself to reach a better position in your grieving process where you're more able to look at things in a more objective perspective.
Sorry for your loss. Please take care.
2006-08-29 04:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a guy at our church who had the 101st Parachute Infantry "Screaming Eagle" divisional patch tattooed on his shoulder, a souvenir of his service in WWII. He had jumped into Normandy on D-Day and fought his way across Europe with the other paratroopers. He is no longer with us, but I remember pointing him out to some children at a swim party 20 years ago. His tattoo meant something. A number of the 2012 Olympians got the five rings tattooed in various places. I got a tribal tattoo from the Ibans, a tribe in Sarawak, where I served in the Peace Corps; so did about half my fellow PCVs. Your name? That sounds like you just couldn't wait to get inked but hadn't done anything noteworthy in your life except be born to Mr. and Mrs. Sauceda. Why don't you wait until you do something you want to commemorate?
2016-03-27 00:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many ways to remember someone you love. If it is what you want to do then go ahead but I would put it somewhere that cannot be viewed by others unless I want it to be.
I have a friend who lost her brother in a drunk driving accident 7 years ago. She had his photo and dates of birth and death tattooed on her lower back. She regrets having done it now but there isn't much she can do about it now.
2006-08-29 04:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know, ultimately this is a personal choice. Since you asked for opinions, I will give you mine. I personally do not believe that these tattoos memorialize the dead as much as they make us feel like we did something in their name and memory. If you really want to show that you cared, I would recommend something more meaningful. How did this person die, I assume it was not old age. If they died because of a disease, you could donate your time to help raise money for a cure. If he died in violence, you could start a group to share your views on peaceful resolution to conflict. If he died from suicide, you could volunteer on a suicide help line.
These types of commitments take a lot more effort than getting ink done, and they will help many more people in your friend's name.
Good Luck in your decision.
2006-08-29 04:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO IT. Seriously - you will NOT regret it - just make sure the tat wone be somewhere that future employers will hate. I lost my best mate a few years ago to cancer. I actually bought a tattoo gun myself, inks, tubes all this gear, and did a tattoo for him on my left forearm. I am proud of it, I love it.
2006-08-29 04:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be tacky to put his name on your body. It would NOT be tacky to put a symbol of him on your body. My best friend died when I was 15, and all of my friends got his initials on their chest. I hated the fact of being a billboard for my grief. What I did do is get a tattoo of a sun crying. This was a great symbol to me because it obviously was in recognition of my best friend, but it showed how I felt and how the world felt on that day.
2006-08-29 04:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by bajoverga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would honor him, a tattoo says something about who you are-and should mean something to you, it may even help in times of need to be able to look at something and always remember him. My dad is in a motorcycle gang...and they are all getting old so they have lost a few friends...my dad has gotten two tattoos for fallen friends and I think its sweet.
2006-08-29 04:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it would be tacky, just make sure that in 10 - 20 yrs you'll still feel the same about him! And I know that now it's impossible to know how you'll feel later! I can just imagine if I had a chicks name inked on me!
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2006-08-29 04:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tattoos are very personal, it is totally up to you what you want to put on your body, so not worth asking people on here as you will get some nasty people saying that yes it is tacky, but it's your tribute, your body, so do what you want.
2006-08-29 04:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe its your choice. You said it yourself...he liked your tattoos but just didn't feel they were right for him. That doesn't mean he wouldn't want you to honor him like that. In fact, he might want you to be yourself and show your respect for him in a way that is pleasing to you. Therefore, if you really want to do it, then go for it. I don't think he would disapprove.
2006-08-29 04:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋