so my best friend in the whole world is getting married on saturday and she needed me to hang out with her last night. she just wanted to relax and get some things off her chest and hang out with me pretty much one last time as SINGLES!! hehe. I told my boy that i would be at her house, he seemed cool with it but he kept texting me wanting to know if he could see me later that night. when i went over there, (cause I wanted to see him too) it was about 10pm and he was a complete sarcastic jerk to me. I kept telling him that i had a long emotional day and i didnt want any crap. he kept "picking" at me, well it turns out he was having a pretty bad day too, and he needed me. WHY did he not say something earlier, why did he let me go to my friends, only to punish me for being unavailable later?
how can i make it up to him, he is really hurt by my actions, honestly i had NO idea he needed me too!
2006-08-29 04:12:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are all 26 and 27
a bit old for drama!
2006-08-29 04:19:59 · update #1
In my opinion, friends come first. You probably knew her longer and are closer to her. Also, getting married is stressful, no matter how right it is. Everyone gets full of doubts and anxieties. So this week she may need you more than normal (make sure you let your bf know that is the case so he will understand better if you ahve to be with her again this week).
What bothers me is that he told you it was ok for you to go be with her instead of being with him, and then didnt expresst hat he needed you too. I dont think you should have to make up for anything. Just express to him that you are sorry you werent with him after his bad day, but its important for him to actually telly ou he needs you, instead of just appeasing you and letting you go elsewhere. Communication is the key and if he doesnt communicate his needs, then you wont know them, right? Let him know that if you had known he needed you so badly you would have made the time to be with him too.
Next time you are elsewhere and he is constantly texting you and such, ask him straight out if something is realyl wrong and if he needs you. Remind him that you wont know unless he tells you, so he needs to let you know. That way this wont happen again and he wont feel neglected.
2006-08-29 04:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by bluedaboodee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. He should have said something to you about how he was feeling. He may just be lying to you just so you could feel guilty. Don't mention it and you'll see that he will get over it. Don't beat yourself up about it. If I had to choose between my best friend and my boyfriend I would choose my best friend in a heart beat. She's been in my life alot longer than he has.
2006-08-29 11:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends should always come first, and boyfriends second. Now if this was your spouse, it'd be different, but boyfriends aren't guaranteed to be around forever, and yet friends are usually for lifetime.
If he can't understand that someone who openly said they needed you, got you....while he sat around and expected you to know he needed you....then he needs to do some thinking.
2006-08-29 11:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are like that - I think it is mostly that he just wanted you around, was emotional that your weren't, then didn't want to let you know that so tried to appear fine by being sarcastic.
2006-08-29 11:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by teh_uber__pugseh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get over it. That is meant to be mean but when he comes to his senses he will understand that you did nothing wrong and he will be apologizing to you for acting like a selfish jerk.
2006-08-29 11:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Wayne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing! you hung out with your friend, and still went to see him later that night. I think he's being a bit unrealistic to have you all to himself all the time (and selfish)
2006-08-29 11:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your guy sounds very insecure and jealous that you have friends. He wants you all to himself. That is a red flag in my book. I would watch that behavior in the future.
2006-08-29 11:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is he, 18? He should have given you some space to spend time with your girl friend that she is going to get married.
2006-08-29 11:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boy sounds immature - and his actions prove that. Tell him to stop pouting and grow up. It's not like you refused a date with him and were out partying instead. he knew where you were, why you were there and was ok with it.
2006-08-29 11:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Admiral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men often have no communication skills. Just give him a good long hug, and tell him that you had no idea.
2006-08-29 11:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋