I think my mom was in the wrong her but I want other peoples opinion?

Question

My AS level exam results came 1 wk ago (C,D,D,D) I had a talk with my parents and had a plan of action.2day though she drags out my pre exam college report. The report said alot of things:"he's a little laid back in his attitude 2 work" "he only applys himself 2 the parts of the work that intrest him" "he prefers working in groups and when pushed can work independently." I looked at this report and the first words I said were: wtf. Apart from gov&pol, all my other subject teachers told me durin the year I worked hard and I was doin well in my work. Yet my form tutour, who does not lyk me comes up with that rubbish. My mom reads the report again and then starts shouting at me, she goes: you dnt work, you dnt give a damn about ur work. She won't let me get a word in and I get so mad I yell "****** bloody hell." She continues yelling at me and says "you disgust me", so I respond back with "I hate you, you disgust me" Later she goes "I dnt give a damn about ur studies anymore, screw you."

During my exam results discussion with her I told her I will work harder and that the proof of the pudding will be my mock test results.
After this recent arguement over my pre exam college report she is now giving me the silent treatment.

Answer 1

Wow, you should both calm down and have a talk without both sides' being judgmental. I know this is hard..but once you find a way for communication rest comes easily.

Answer 2

seems to me you are in college now and you are not truely doing the job your tutour thinks you can do .

The fact that you have totour states you understand you needed help wit hthe work and have saught out someone to assist you i nlearning the lesson good for you.The Teachers may be Suagar coating it so you dont get Overwhelmed by the presasures of the new school.

Since you have low grades and your mother is upset , might be due to the COST of the education , she may be thinking if I kick him in his backside it might jar him into action.Sadly when you burst out and screamed you triggered her to do the same and this is where it went south.She got mad and first thing to do is give up and say screw it but WE all know most do not mean it.

Tempers fair .... yours did , so should your mother say to you fine drop out and do nothing ? She wants you to finish school and do your best sadly some people can not communicate this properly without getting aggrovated and they start saying some things the ydont mean.

You need ot first get your studies going in the right direction .
I have a 7 yr old gir land I already have a 24 yr old guy.SO I already been dow nthe road of schools with the boy lol .I made hi mand now her keep a C average.If it falls below that THYE MUST work harder ot bring it back up.C is a grade good enough to pass and means you are average , this does not mean they can not do better but C is fine and keeps them out of the Dog House.

I tel lyou this cuz you need ot work at the C level first , once you get there try for a B level , make SMALL Goals and work towards them.It will be easier with baby steps first.Learn this now and you will understand how to avoid those angry bouts with your parents.

Let your mom see you made small progress and she will give you those hugs and tel lehr friedns I am so porud of him he got his head out of his butt and I gave him the kick to do it.
let her belief that , you just need to work towards that C level first.Then go from there ok .

Shakespear write .. This above all to thy ownself be true ... lear nto be true to yourself and you should be able to weather to stroms life will place in your path .

Wrong or right makes little difference here - you both said things that where not meant , you see your classes and knew you needed help or you would not have gotten a tutour so first work towards a C level the nwork toward a higher level or stay at C.This way you are passing your classes and everyone is happy. Just remember that ok .Pass the classes and your mom will have no reason to get aggrovated at you.

Answer 3

Respect is a two way street. It seems to me you both are lacking in that department. For the sake of communication, next time she yells at you use the following technique and you may be able to get a word or two in without shouting and she may even calm down. Example: Mother:"You dont work, you dont give a damm about your work." You: Mother, you must be very upset after reading that report. You must think that I dont care about my work, and it must really frustrate you. In your place, I would feel the same way too. I know, these are not the grades you expected.... (in the middle stick in what you want to clear up with her in a nonaccussatory manner)... and so I apologize to you (and end the conversation in a honest manner, apologizing for your mistakes and promissing to be better next time)...because now I realize what is at stake, and I hope you can have enough faith in me to give me a chance to show you what I am really about." Good luck!

Answer 4

Its a tough situation. Your mom cares about you and is worried about your future. She wants you to apply yourself and try harder. (Maybe you should spend some time on your spelling. I mean "lyk" and "ur", come on.)

Show her your report cards from throughout the school year with the positive teacher comments, and apologize for telling her that you hate her. I don't want to be morbid, but something aweful like a car accident could happen to her at any time and you would not want those to be your last words to your mom.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You had no right to talk to your mother like that. No matter how wrong you think she is. You are suppose to always respect your parents.She would have never said the things she said if you would have kept your mouth shut,took what she had to say,and moved on. I think you got what you deserved. Your mother only wants the best for you and is trying to motivate you to do better base by the grades you gotten which are to say the lease are poor. If you turn out to be a bum it's your own fault,not hers.

Answer 6

Firtst, you shouldn't be yellingor cursing at your mother. True, your mother may not be perfect, mymother wasn't perfect, but you have to respect her, when she starts to yell out you,just listen, even though you want to say something, try to humble yourself and keep quiet, that will get to her- be sweet to her the more you're mean to her the meaner she will get to you-try to just let her say what she needs to say to blow off steam let it sit and then come back to her later and ask her to talk, try to communicate with her let her know what you are felling- in a respectable way- trust me things will change- only if you really want it to

Answer 7

Well you are not going to like my answer but your both wrong. Your mom for saying what she said about "you disgust me" BUT in ALL other aspects YOU are WRONG. Go back to grade school and learn how to speak, spell, and write. THEN and ONLY then you might have a leg to stand on so to speak.

Answer 8

Continue to try your best and when she starts in on you like that don't yell back at her. Just remain calm and be nice to her. It is like a slap in the teeth to them when they are being mean to you and you keep your cool and remain polite.

Answer 9

of direction it somewhat is not any longer incorrect to stay at your pal's residing house for that quantity of time, seeing somewhat as you hadn't seen one yet another for an prolonged time. Your mum is possibly attempting to save them complication yet as you have been invited and your pal somewhat wanted you to stay then i see no injury in it. i'm sixteen and have stayed a techniques longer than that at estranged pal's residences!! as long as you weren't a nuisance i see no injury :D desire this helped!!

Answer 10

Yea, you both were worked up and said inappropriate things.

Your mom is SCARED for you...not mad at you. You need to apologize, tell her what you will do consistently to make things better and then stick to it. She wants you to be successful...that's all.