Five year old pees in pants?

Question

My five year old still pees in his pants. He says it was a accident. The last two years he has attended headstart and ever peed his pants while there. But when he got home he would. This year he is entering Kindergarten and I know he won't pee at school, but how do I stop him from "letting er rip" at home?

Answer 1

my oldest grandson went through the same thing. as a solution, every hour, set on a kitchen timer, his parents would stop whatever he was doing, and send him to the bathroom. then he got a hug and kiss. if he forgot as he said, he was reminded. if he just needed a little extra attention- he got it. either way - it worked!! in less than a month the problem was solved, and he still shows up for hugs and kisses. my grandson is 7 now. hope it works for you.

Answer 2

U need 2 determine the reason he's doing it. The only time my 4yr old has done it is when he's so involved in what he's doing that he doesn't want 2 stop & take the time 2 go 2 the bathroom. The remedy 4 that is 2 let him know it's not ok & it's not an accident. Also, when u know he hasn't gone in awhile tell him he needs 2. I potty trained my son by using a timer & when it rang every hour (got longer as he got better) I would say "potty time" & he'd have 2 stop what he was doing & try 2 go. The same method may work 4 this issue. Since he doesn't have this problem @ school I can't believe it's a medical issue. Unless he's under some sort of pressure/stress at home. Or he could just b wanting ur attention (even if negative).That's solved by giving him more positive attention. Try talking 2 him about the issue (I know it can b hard w/ a 5yr old). Good luck!

Answer 3

Does he only have problems during the day or does he wet the bed too?

Did he use the bathroom at headstart or hold it all day?

Are there certain things that he does at home that seem to make him more likely to have an accident? Like he won't get off the computer to go to the bathroom so he pees on himself?

If you haven't yet, try keeping a journal where you write down when he has accidents and what he was doing at the time to see if you recognize any patterns.

Answer 4

You know what? I'm having the same concern with my 5 year old, who will be starting Kindergarten next week too. First off, let me say, it's not a medical issue, at least not physical. My son would use the toilet at school too, then pee on himself at home. He often will go two weeks without wetting his pants, then he'll do it three times in one day! I know it's an attention issue, and might be related to a "control" issue. This is something he can control. I just read an article that also says not to give him ANY attention (possitive or negative) when he wets himself, only when he uses the toilet. I included the link to that site for you. Today, I tried that. I made him take off his clothes and bathe himself. Then of course dress himself. I did not allow him to have any toys in the tub, as that would be way too much fun. My son went to preschool last year, and the year before--he never had accidents there, only at home. I do think it is a good idea to MAKE him use the bathroom as soon as he gets home. Don't ask him to, tell him to and watch to make sure he really does. (Hopefully) he'll get sick of being treated like a baby and just stop peeing on himself. With my son, withholding privileges or disciplining him does not work. He's so stubborn that he'll make himself not care about privilage loss, and he so needs attention that he will tattle on himself to earn a spanking, time out, etc. One day he told me he hated me. To keep from killing him, I told him he was going to get his mouth washed out with soap when his father got home. His dad barely walked in the door and he told him he needed to wash his mouth out with soap because he told mom he hated her. (He acted so proud of needing to be disciplined.) He was adopted by us at 2 years old, after being neglected by his biological mother and constantly needs to have attention and be the center of everything. We raised four natural children, but he's much more strong willed then the other four all put together! I wish you luck with this issue, hopefully if nothing else you'll be encouraged just knowing you are not alone! I know I am. :o) Lisa I.

Answer 5

Is he holding it until he get home before he would pee?
Has he ever gone to the bathroom by himself in preschool or kindergarten? Also, what kind of pants does he have on, with zippers, belt?

My son pee once in school when he was seven, he was wearing jeans for the first time (normally he wears sweat pants).
Prior to that time, he does not like to go to the bathroom in school, he would hold it until he gets home and run to the bathroom.
He only goes to the bathroom in school, if he really can't hold it any more.
I don't have a really answer for you, but just my experience and maybe that would give you some ideas. good luckl.

Answer 6

It is quite common. My son is also 5 and my friends boy is 5, we both have the same problem. For our kids it's because they get so busy playing and they don't want to stop to go pee. They end up having an accident. It doesnt happen very often, but it does sometimes. You could make sure he goes pee right before he walks into class, and ask his teacher to encourage him to go at snack time. It is possible that there's something medically going on. Perhaps he has a small bladder, or weak muscles or something. If that' s a concern you could talk to your doctor. Hope this helps and God Bless

Answer 7

That is very odd that he won't do it at school. Probably cause he would be embarrassed I would think. Maybe he thinks he won't get in trouble for it at home? I was gonna say maybe he had something wrong with his bladder but if he can control it at school, then thats out of the question. Maybe he's getting caught up in whatever he's doing at home. I would just continue to ask him if he has to go to the bathroom. If he says no and then 5 or 10 minutes later he pees in his pants I would repremend him for it. Cause then he is just choosing not to go.

Or you can just tell him that your to put him in a diaper if he keeps peeing in his pants. Maybe the thought of being treated like a baby will want him to be a big boy.

Answer 8

My friends' daughter was doing it for years till she was about 9 years old. She would not usually do it anywhere else, but mostly at home. They finally took her to the urologist and the tests showed that she had an irritated bladder as the complication after the common cold or flu. Years ago she had a very bad cold or flu, and that's what happened. She didn't feel any pains, but the pictures of her bladder showed that it is all covered with scars.

Answer 9

When my brother was little, she would have him take off his pants and just play in his shirt and underwear when he cam home from school to make it easier to get to the bathroom fast.

I've found rewards work best with potty-related stuff. Either a small candy reward each time he uses the bathroom or a sticker chart, where he gets a sticker each day he stays dry and earns a prize (treat or toy) after so many days.

If these don't work, I would definitely consult your pediatrician. If there's something bigger going on, you don't want to let it get out of hand.

Answer 10

It sounds like a regression to me. Is the extra youthful son potty experienced? i might assume at to you have a minimum of began potty education. while you're giving the extra youthful son interest from potty education the older one might thunk that if he pees his pants he gets interest. i'm particular its undesirable interest yet all he's conscious is that once he pees you're spending time with him and not little brother. in elementary terms a guideline yet set up a reward chart on the bathing room door. for on a daily basis he does not have an twist of destiny enable him placed a decal on the chart and whilst he gets 10 stickers he gets a definite cope with, like an further scoop of ice cream or 10 minutes of extra television, or you have a prize field with little issues in it like stickers, much less costly little toys, coloring books, little autos for the reason that they are boys, non everlasting tattoos are continuously exciting. besides ultimately the stickers won't rely and he would be back to going potty like a huge boy. be certain dad is on the comparable internet site for the reason that he is going back and forth. you're able to do it with the little too. desire this permits. sturdy luck.