my bf used to hit me n abuse me,will he ever change?

Question

i broke of wid him recently.my quetion is will he behave in a same manner wid d other gal also.

Answer 1

Usually once someone starts a chain of abuse, it doesn't end. Maybe he was abused as a child, or maybe he say his father abuse his mother, there could be all sorts of reasons as to why he does it, but it usually is a very hard thing to stop....I think you are saying you broke up with him and if so, that is the best thing you can do.

Answer 2

Once he has gained control of any relationship he gets into, eventually he will be abusive. I have known quite a few relationships like yours. He comes back, says sorry, never happen again, and in about 3 months time there is a rewind button on the relationship. Any man or woman, married or dating that are fortunate enough to get out of a domestic violence situation, should stay out while the opportunity is there. I only have two things to say to anyone who keeps returning, 'If you are dumb enough to go back you are dumb enough to get what you deserve' and if a man EVER raised his hand to me....1) he better hope I never get up and 2) if I get up he better hope I can't get to a phone. He'd be pushing up daisy's by dawn. Don't look back, warn others if you get the chance about him. Not to ruin his life but to perhaps save someone else's and help him seek some help.

Answer 3

1) weldone for breaking up with him it was the best possible thing you could have done.
2) no he'l never change, if the women accepts his apology after hes been abusive, like hes hit her, grovelled abit made the old 'i promise i swear il never do it again blah blah blah' then thats just giving him the freedom of doing it again, cause he knows hel get away with it .
3) most likely his next relationship will turn violent as well, you should have got the police on him and had him done for GBH, and had him ordered to take anger management.

you need to warn the girl of his violent tendencies, and if hes already hit her get her to take him to court..

an abusive partner rarely changes there ways

Answer 4

There is a saying the leopard never changes his spot. He has some serious anger issues young lady, count your blessings that you got out. The odds have it that unless he finds help in caging the beast that provokes his violent streak, he will continue the pattern of abuse in any relationship he finds himself in. You deserve better, love don't hurt and leaves bruises.

Answer 5

Abuse can only change if the person truly wants to change. Such a change would require a drastic event to occur in their life as a result of their abuse, and the sheer horror or shock from the result causes them to stop.

A simple break-up won't stop the abuse however. As long as he only sees "benefit" in his actions, it won't stop.

Answer 6

Of course, men who abuse women usually abuse all the women they date. It's not about the women, it's about the power and control they can have over someone weaker which makes them feel stronger. It may even lead to death so be thankful you are out of that volatile relationship.

Answer 7

Do not get involved. Although the girl needs to know what kind of person he is, she needs to find out on her own and deal with it herself. Just thank God that you are no longer in that abusive relationship.

Answer 8

I am glad you left him. Normally, abusers will continue to abuse and most gradually get very violent. I do believ he will be abusive throughout life until he gets some help. Dont try to help him, he needs to do this on his own. Learn to recognize this in all your relationships and dont put up with it.

Answer 9

Yes lucky escape for you, I have seen women injured and heard some are killed. Talk to a councilor. or church person or Mom or friends It only gets worse as time goes by

Answer 10

Yes, he has an abusive personality!

Any woman with him will most likely experience the same thing.