2 questions:
1) How to make myself more comfortable?
2) Guys, how criticle will it be to you if your girl couldn't have sex more than once a day?
I'm with this guy, we've just started a relationship, and he's all over me.
We had our first night together after seeing each other for 2 months...and it was fabulous, except for the part that it was hurting me alot!!! His was too big, and I was really in pain.
He said I should be saying this because he doesn't want to hurt me. But when things happen, I can't stop him in the middle!
When I did after we had sex the third night, he looked upset and a bit frustrated. I hated that!
I certainly don't want to give him bj all of the time because I know I'm very good at it, and want that to happen only in special cases.
And also, I hate it when he says "f**k me" or "I'm f**king you"!! Urr, is this something I should say to him?!
2006-08-29 03:45:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask him not to curse in bed - i curse in bed and my ex had to ask me to stop, it was a little embarrassing but no problem :):):)
As for him being too large, have him finger you a LOT, get a dildo and use it a lot, and in general try to stretch the area. he needs to be GENTAL and use a lot of lube.
Also if you are afraid of the pain he causes you will tighten, so try to relax. and tell him to stop when it hurts because if you don't you will soon stop wanting to have sex with him all together - that happened with the same ex above.
2006-08-29 03:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that big, then ask him to insert it only part of the way. It may cause you less pain and shouldn't have that much effect on how much enjoyment he gets out of the experience. I don't want to sound like an expert here because I'm not, but I've seen this done in XXX rated movies and both partners - well, atleast the male actor - seem to get pleasure from the sex act. You can never be sure about the female actor in such movies due to the fact that she could be faking it for the cameras. But, there is no question that male actor is satisfied in the end because he always manages to ejaculate. Anyway, you could atleast give this approach a try.
2006-08-29 04:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should spend at least 10 minutes on four play to make sure you are ready. Make sure you relax, and if you don't want to do it then say NO. Maybe you can try to start it yourself by you being the person in charge. You would be able to control how deep, and etc. I used to have the same problem, and I could only get him up there if he went down on me first. If he didn't then he wasn't getting up there! After about 5 minutes of intercourse then I could take it rough. It just takes a little bit of time to get used to, and you have to be relaxed. A lot of four play is key for you, and if you don't want the dirty talk then tell him or he won't know.
2006-08-29 04:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but you don't seem very compatible as a couple.
your boyfriend seems to be something of uncaring oaf if he cant see that he is causing you discomfort.
Sulking about sex is a very childish trait and shows a lack of concern for your partner.
If it is like this now what will it be like when you are married?
Sexual difficulties put a great strain on marriages and if you cannot resolve this quickly it does not look very good for your future life together.
My advice:- Get him to be more thoughtful or dump him !!
2006-08-29 04:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Harry H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend more time on foreplay so you are properly aroused and wet enough for him ... then you need to explore different positions and find the one that is most comfortable for you - you on top should be better because you control the penetration ... if he wants to use foul language when you're having sex, he should really say something to you about it - it's all down to taste and some women don't want to use such words ...
2006-08-29 03:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this is a bilateral relationship. Here the size is not important, I believe. The attitude and the techniques are much much more crutial. Talk to him, when you are both relaxed, friendly and happy; not exactly after sex or before it or even worse in the middle!!!
2006-08-29 03:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Peyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be only your fear which aggravates the situation for you ....rest assured, you are quite flexible ! In fact, women are made like that !! You may use lubricants, if needed. Sooner than later, you are going to be accustomed to the whole situation.
As regards frequency, it's a matter to be mutually decided by both of you. Good luck !!
2006-08-29 04:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Just_for_fun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex once a day is cool enough.....
the size thing..try some other posistions where he can't quite get it all the way in....like on your side...check the kuma sutra there are dozens more for little ladies with "big" lovers. my lady dictates the posistion so she doesn't get hurt....but don't hold out on the BJs..more of those and the other will not bother him as much
2006-08-29 03:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if hes too big - concentrate on fourplay to make sure you get good and wet - then if needed use some lubricant as well. that should ease things in a bit. As for him talking dirty - just tell him you're not really into that kinda stuff
2006-08-29 03:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem when I first start a sexual relationship with someone. I am quite larger than most and until my partner gets accustom to my size it can be somewhat painful. K-Y helps but he must learn to be more gentle and easy until you are ready. Talk to him about it and if he cares about you he will understand.
2006-08-29 03:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by dg_154u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋