ive known this girl i keep thinking about for 1 year but me and my girl have been on one month off one for half a year? I really need help? Ps ive emailed the other girl telling her i kepp thinking about her so far no reply plus im not the type to cheat so any idiots whot think i should do that please dont write that!
2006-08-29 03:42:54 · 23 answers · asked by Tristan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you aren't really ready to be exclusive with your current girlfriend.You should probably tell her that.she may get upset and break up with you, but it sounds like you are not in love with her anyway.You don't need to tell her that you are interested in someone else.Maybe this other girl knows you have a girlfriend.You should break up first or become non-exclusive and then the other girl may be more interested.good luck.
2006-08-29 03:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by ejtme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first wordings are a little hard to make out, you said that you and your girl have been on one month, off one for half a year. And then you say something about not cheating, (which is very good) so I am going to take it that you are still with another girl. You can't get this other girl off of your mind because you refuse to let her go. You are cheating emotional wether you want to admitt it or not. I suggest that you simply take control of your thoughts..... STOP thinking about this other girl and give your girlfriend the love, attention, and heart and mind that she deserves. If you continue to refuse to let this other go, then perhaps you should break off what you have with your gf, you are cheating on her emotionally and you can't possibly love her if you won't let her in and get rid of this other person. You are only with her because you don't want to be alone and you have received no responce from this other girl with your e-mail and so you know she doesn't feel the same. You are using the one you are with. Let her go, or love her the way she needs you to. BLessed be..........
2006-08-29 03:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this other girl because you know you can't have her. . . because you know you won't cheat? Do you like the girl you are with? How much do you know about this other girl? Will she make you happier than your current girl? These are just a few of the things you need to think about before you make a decision. Also, why do you and your current girl keep breaking up? This to me does not sound like a functional relationship. Not worth the time and effort if you guys will break up again next month. You also sound very young. . . not a good time to focus on relationships anyway. Chances are you won't marry either one of these girls. Become each of their good friend first and then decide who you like spending most of your time with. Face it. . . if you leave your current girl for another. . . she won't come back!!!
2006-08-29 03:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be a good idea to end things with your girlfriend if you can't get this other girl out of your head, it seems to me that you're probably not that into her if you're more interested in someone else. Of course if you end things with her there is no guarantee that this other girl will be interested in you. But if you want to pursue things with her I think it would be best that you wait until you are single. I'm sure this other girl will respect you more if you aren't trying to pursue her while you're with your current girl. And if you end up with neither girl, at least you have some time by yourself to figure out what you really want.
2006-08-29 03:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you already have a girlfriend so its good that you dont want to cheat. but iv been in a situation where a guy cheated on his girl with me but then wanted to stop cos he loved his girl too much. i was crushed and heartbroken...so from my personal experience you should think of which one you would want to be with more...the girl or your girlfriend...if youd rather be with the girl then ur gf then u shud break up with ur gf even if the other girl says no to you. cos its not really fair on your girlfriend if you keep thinking about someone else...
the fact that she hasnt replied yet, can mean that either she hasnt seen it yet, or she doesnt know what to reply...so i think that the best thing to do is to talk to this girl face to face and see how she feels...
but whats important is who YOU want to be with....
2006-08-29 03:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you cant stop thinking about this girl....why are you dating the girl you are currently with? It sounds to be you arent that interested in her. Also if you really want to pursue this other girl then I would call her or talk to her in person. If you want to forget her....its hard as I am sure you are aware. Just concentrate on other things. Also if you truly want to forget her do not e-mail her, do not contact her, look at pictures, talk about her, etc. Hope that helps a little!
2006-08-29 03:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by greentealover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have stronger feelings for this other girl if you dont cheat then take a break from your current girlfriend and try to pursue this new chick but chances are that if she still hasnt responded then shes not interested try to call her. But dont ruin a relationship that might be going well for simple lust.
2006-08-29 03:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just figure out if you want to be with someone other than the girl that you are with right now. If you do, break it off with her before pursuing someone else. Remember, the other woman might not feel about you in the same way that you feel about her, so be prepared for that. Don't return to the first girl just because the other one rebuked you. That is just low, and she deserves to be with someone that will put her first.
2006-08-29 03:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really can't this girl out of your head, maybe you need to be with her instead of your current girlfriend. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but consider how hurt your girlfriend would be if she found out that it was some other woman and not her occupying your thoughts all the time.
Best of luck.
2006-08-29 03:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i've been/am in this situation at the current moment... and my guy told me he had feelings for the other girl... but ya know what, though it hurt, in the long run his eyes came back to me... b/c i planned on being with him thick and thin... and the other girl was nothing like he thought he wanted...
if i were you i would try to put more engery on the g/f... b/c chances are she wants to make it work... and the other chances is the other girl is just a friend...
oh yeah, i have seen relationships fail b/c of this... once on of my friends b/f broke up with her to go out with a mutual friend of theirs... well, the mutual friend broke up with him after a day... not only did this make him look like a fool, but now he is considered undatable...
think about your actions before you make them...
2006-08-29 03:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋