I like her, but not sure if I love her. We have been dating for 5 months. She has been married 2 times, i have never been married, and not sure if this a long term relationship. I do not want to hurt her feelings, how do I approach this?
2006-08-29 03:30:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe tell her that you'd like to take it slow, of cuz in a really gentle manner. assure her that you do like her. i get the feeling that she's lonely.
2006-08-29 03:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by mondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's fast pace society, the word "love" is thrown out there sooner & sooner in relationships. Five months is a good amount of time for her to think maybe she is "in love". Apparently (2marriages) she's used to relationships moving along quicker than what you are. It may have been just said in a moment of passion, doesn't carry the weight you've assigned it. But, if you sense you've hurt her feelings, you should be honest about how you view "love". You might be suprised to find out that just because she said it doesn't nessesarily mean she wants to spend the rest of her life with you either.
2006-08-29 10:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach it with the truth. And if you are not going to have a monogamous sexual relationship with her --- practice safe sex. Tell her how you feel about relationships, what you expect of them and the things you fear about being in a LTR. Anything based on honest, open communication has a much better chance of growing. If not this woman, you will meet one who values you for this above all else. Then you will know Love.
2006-08-29 10:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex to men and woman are always meant and read a lot differently. Woman are emotionally attached to their lovers, thats a fact. Be gentle and honest with her. If might hurt her that you don't return the love she might feel for you, but she will respect you for your honesty. It would hurt more if you acted like the feelings were mutual. A woman who has been married twice already means she's been hurt twice before. Just tell her that while you enjoy your company you are not ready to tell her you love her. She needs to respect that.
2006-08-29 10:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ro Ro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Most" of these responses are good advice.
Since she is twice a divorcee', I don't think you replying in kind will hurt her as much as everybody thinks. BUT, the lack of any response at all, is probably driving her up a wall.
You will need to address this tonight with her. So get your thoughts together and figure out what you are NOT going to tell her.
2006-08-29 10:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her then why lead her on with sex? That's really not cool. Sounds like a one-sided relationship to me. That's pretty hurtful to her. You really should keep it in your pants until you're really in love.
2006-08-29 10:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by jacquelinebrns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people say alot of crazy things when they are in the heat of passion. who knows, thats probably what she said to husband #1 and husband #2...who knows? anyway you owe it to her to tell her the truth about how u feel towards her. dont have her feeling like if she said something foul. do you know what you even did to her by not responding that same moment? if you know u did not feel any sort of deep feelings for her why the hell did u bed her??....oh wait thats a stupid question...feelings of love and endearment are not required now-a-days to knock somebody up. right?...you just have to like how they look or "like them"...right?....
2006-08-29 10:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell her that you're not sure about your feelings for her. At least that would be the honest thing to say. I think she would respect that you are trying to be careful.
2006-08-29 10:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to answer the question but judje her her faith before any move you can enjoy sex but with justice to her feelings. Time is best medicine on such problems
2006-08-29 10:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by sanjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That poor girl laid her heart out there and got no response. That hurts! Be gentle with whatever you say to her, but address it soon! Right now she is trying to figure out what she did wrong, what is wrong with her and why you don't love her back. Good luck, and please be easy with her
2006-08-29 10:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by angielynn219 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HER BACK, she was in the moment and i'm sure she may have thought that she was but it sounds like infatuation to me. just be honest with her and if you don't love her yet but really like her, then just tell her that....
2006-08-29 10:36:20 · answer #11 · answered by cali_gal716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋