We feel like we missed out on gifts for our wedding.Are we *hit out of luck or is there a subtle way to make it up when we buy our first home? Is it proper to register at our favorite store for a house warming party?
2006-08-29 02:45:26 · 15 answers · asked by L S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That would be the best way to do it!! That's how we did it even after having a small reception i didn't have a shower either so that was our way to make up for it! that and i think it is a trend now to do house warming partys even if you did the other two or at least here is is
2006-08-29 02:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by lori b 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Didn't you still get wedding gifts from friends and family?
If people sent gifts, I wouldn't register, it looks like you are asking for handouts instead of sharing the joy with friends and family. House warming parties are usually the couple's way of saying hi to new neighbors and inviting family and close friends to see the new home. It's a "breaking in" party for the house and people invited. They aren't usually about gift and starting out on a new life the way wedding are. It's understood that when a couple marries, they will need things for their life together. People buy the gifts to celebrate and to try to help them on their way. After a few years of marriage, it's understood that you've had time to buy your own items for living.
While some people will bring traditional gifts like candles and wines, other people understand that a new home needs some touches, so many will call and ask what you want/need for household goods. Try to keep items less expensive and small so that people don't feel they are being asked to furnish your new home. If you feel that you need something specific that's a little larger, then tell the people who ask to maybe all pitch in to buy it for you. I would try to keep most items under $50.
HOWEVER, if you didn't recieve ANY gifts for the wedding, (or maybe just a few from close family) then go ahead and register. People will understand that you didn't get much at the wedding, and buying a new home is a large expense. You won't have tons of money left over for things like kitchen appliances and linens. Still try to keep things on the less expensive side, people don't expect to pay a lot when buying gifts, unless it's a wedding or new baby. You can include the store name on the invitation without it being too tacky. Put it in the lower corner, many people like having a choice of items instead of having to go through the hassel of selecting something.
2006-08-29 10:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, three years later, the gifts you "missed out on" are becoming more important than the marriage? Hmmm! Sure, you can have a housewarming party, but that is not something you register for - that would be extremely tacky and rude. The housewarming is just a get-together - maybe someone brings wine, or flowers.... Get working hard, save up some dough and buy what you need .... or seem to want.
2006-08-29 10:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... the tricky thing is that you have to be careful not to look greedy or rude. Most people buy very simple things for housewarming like wine, candles, pot holders...ect.... To actually register for large gifts is going to look a bit tacky.
Weddings are different because people understand that your putting out a large chunk of money for a wedding and your starting your life together.
I don't mean to be rude- but you sound very greedy. You missed out... so big deal, there's starving kids in world. I don't know why you didn't have a shower- did you elope?? Then you didn't have to pay for a wedding- So buy your own gifts!! It's just very rude to think that people owe you something or you deserve something because you didn't get something some else might have. I would personally skip the registry.
And If I was your friend and you told me your register for a housewarming- I would think you were very very TACKY.
2006-08-29 09:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your new home! The people who can and care, will buy you a gift. Don't register because that is tacky to assume every milestone warrants a gift.. Yes, have a housewarming party, though. That's a nice way to show off your new digs and receive gifts graciously.
Are you happily married? Then you are not "out of luck".
2006-08-29 11:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Karen? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Register only if you want to go down in history as the most out of line losers on the planet. Trust me people will never forget you trying to make up for lost gifts and will see right through it as a party given as a cash cow. Maintain your dignity. Either give a party and accept the whatever gifts are brought or save the money and furnish your new home.
2006-08-29 09:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by jodie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't register, that isn't very polite, but what you could do is have a house warming party if someone other than you throws it. You won't get the same kind of presents as a wedding, but that is what is to be expected by not inviting people to the wedding.
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 09:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by emp04 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to score loot from your family and friends? You're not entitled to anything just because you got married or just because you bought a house.
If you have a housewarming party, yes, you can register for a few things, but you CANNOT publicize your registry in the invitations-- publicizing your own registry is RUDE.
You must wait for guests to ask you for gift ideas and then you can mention, "Oh, we registered for a few housewarming gifts at Kaufmann's, but I'm sure whatever you choose for us will be lovely."
2006-08-30 17:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is really rude. If you chose not to have a reception at the time of your wedding, then you made your choice and you must accept that. I did not have a bridal shower because my husband already had a home and everything we needed. In 5 years I'm not going to decide that I want one. There is nothing worse then greedy people who come back years after their wedding day to try to pry money from their families and friends. This is incredibly tacky. Don't do it!! Save your money and make sacrifices like everybody else!
2006-08-29 10:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not out of luck. You are entitled to a celebration... buying a home is a BIG step! Go ahead and register... and have a wonderful house warming!
(Be tactful, however, with the invitations... If someone is hosting the party for you, then it's usually more acceptable to list a registry. If you are hosting the party yourselves, then it's often considered rude to list a registry. Just be creative! Perhaps a child, a pet, or even your house itself can "host!")
2006-08-29 09:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make up for the no reception thing, people aren't going to buy you two gifts, but a house warming, with a gift registry is completely acceptable.
2006-08-29 10:52:46 · answer #11 · answered by Jep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋